Anyone else’s DH a Covid ranter?

[Tempnamelady]

DH and me not been in a great place for a while, the Covid restrictions have been tough, he is used to going out 3-4 nights a week.

He’s just so fucking moany , negative and ranty about all the Covid news , it’s like he is the only one affected, I literally dread the news. Not looking forward to potential further restrictions tomorrow ( we are NW T3 so have effectively been in lockdown since November.

I feel like literally packing a bag, running off, and never coming back.

God, same here. I'm used to mine going out at least once a week to a gig or the cinema, and sometimes overnight. I'm now beginning to realise this is how I've survived so long, looking forward to him being out! Now that he's here ALL THE TIME, it's driving me mad.
We have just been watching the news and he was admitting the government haven't done a great job handling things (he's a mega-Tory) and then a few minutes later there was something about the Lake District mountain rescue team pleading with people not to come from T3 and 4, and he said "I don't blame people wanting to go for a walk in the lakes, it's good for them. Why shouldn't they?" They literally just said, you are putting the whole team in danger if you come, please don't! Argh.

@WakingUp55643

God, same here. I'm used to mine going out at least once a week to a gig or the cinema, and sometimes overnight. I'm now beginning to realise this is how I've survived so long, looking forward to him being out! Now that he's here ALL THE TIME, it's driving me mad. We have just been watching the news and he was admitting the government haven't done a great job handling things (he's a mega-Tory) and then a few minutes later there was something about the Lake District mountain rescue team pleading with people not to come from T3 and 4, and he said "I don't blame people wanting to go for a walk in the lakes, it's good for them. Why shouldn't they?" They literally just said, you are putting the whole team in danger if you come, please don't! Argh.

Glad it’s not just me . I’m generally a sunny optimistic person but a week Of this shit and I’m literally at the end of my rope.

Yep mine. He's devastated about the pubs closing again (ours are open at the moment) he talks about it incessantly. January is going to be a nightmare and I've no idea if our marriage will survive it.

Mine was going on about trump (when the election was happening), showing me a lot of the news videos etc. It took a few nods from me and half-smiley silences to show that I’m not as invested in this topic, so he left me alone
Can you just ask him not to discuss it ALL the time with you? He can vent to his mum or a friend, or to an online forum. And also mention that his whinging is a turn off, too.
Surely that should be problem solved?

I wouldn’t mind but I’m 50 early Feb , obviously going to be a none event but I just know there’ll be no effort made with all this as an excuse , when for his 6 years ago , I bought him an expensive watch And arranged a do for him , including catering.

I think if I’m honest it’s symptomatic of our marriage but I cope by having great family and friends, a good career and financial independence and outside interests .

Just feel fed up.

@WakingUp55643

God, same here. I'm used to mine going out at least once a week to a gig or the cinema, and sometimes overnight. I'm now beginning to realise this is how I've survived so long, looking forward to him being out! Now that he's here ALL THE TIME, it's driving me mad. We have just been watching the news and he was admitting the government haven't done a great job handling things (he's a mega-Tory) and then a few minutes later there was something about the Lake District mountain rescue team pleading with people not to come from T3 and 4, and he said "I don't blame people wanting to go for a walk in the lakes, it's good for them. Why shouldn't they?" They literally just said, you are putting the whole team in danger if you come, please don't! Argh.

Oh dear. Tell him (from a woman in Wales) it's because everyone has the same idea and the roads get absolutely rammed with cars lining them, to the point where they had a tow truck waiting to carry cars away because they were causing an obstructions to essential services and locals trying to get to work or care for relatives living nearby.

I'm a normally an empathic, fairly sympathetic kind of person. I feel so sorry for extroverts - not being around lots of people and socialising is hard for them. So many people are locked in with horrible partners, struggling to care for self isolating people, and some people must find it tough living alone, but there are others who seriously need to get a fucking grip.

Are there virtual Zoom pubs he can join or something? I've heard of online choirs although it's not everyone's thing obviously.

Very noticable that its been the 'in the war' people who moaned and bitched about this the most.

Something very unattractive about somebody who just cant get on with things after the initial shock factor.

Oh god yes! I’m subjected to constant stats from Europe and have to guess how many new cases there are on a daily basis

I tell him to stfu all the time so he takes it out on his mates on zoom pub nights and I can hear him in the other room while I sit with the dogs and drink wine.

He also usually goes out one night a week and was meant to go golfing in Spain next week and I think I’m more gutted than him that he can’t now.

He’s brilliant but I wish he’d stop wanging on about it all the time!

Yes! Rant rant rant. Lots of swearing. Then silence for a bit. Then apologies.

Repeat.

Oh Jesus I’ve give up watching the news or reading any. I have my very own all round grumpy moaning ranting dp who has lost the will too live as he can’t get to the gym & train everyday! I literally have to switch off otherwise I’d drop kick into next week... when’s this shit show going to over again ???!

My STBExH rants on all the time about why people aren’t wearing masks, how everyone must be breaking the rules, how this is wrong and that is wrong. All. The. Time. It must be exhausting being an expert in so many areas and having second sight to boot. I try and switch off when he is ranting on as to engage is pointless.

Don't worry OP. When he retires he'll get up early to go to public buildings such as libraries and council reception desk. & get on staffs' last fucking nerve with some difficult, long-winded obscure query that he can moan and whinge loudly about.

Bin collection days, a book he bloody well knows library don't stock, Covid - WHY should I wear a mask to enter building NO I will not use hand sanitiser.. (Even though mask and sanitiser are probably in his pocket anyway, but hidden away in the interests of maximum goady and moany.

Anything really as a pre-cursor to ranting.

Whilst staff imagine a wife at home punching the air saying YESSSS!! The moment he exits the house.

Then putting her feet up comfortably for several hours of doing fuck all except watch TV, browse MN, chat with friends on phone etc. Total, blissful peace.

At least someone's happy.

Covid, Brexit, Trump, the weather, you name it he rants.

As a mid 50’s bloke myself I do find myself ranting about things a lot more than I ever used to. I do try to keep a lid on it though, as not really fair on my wife to have to listen to it. Actually she controls it by getting the kids (well, young adults) to mercilessly take the piss out of me. Works quite well.

Some of my similar age friends have taken to endless rants on Facebook about things. Looking at it from the other side it’s fairly ridiculous.

No doubt I shall continue to to rant though, if only to myself.

@DeeCeeCherry I didn't know you knew my husband 😂 he's off for a walk with his pal. I'm sitting on the sofa with a coffee, feet up and Mumsnet also doing the air punch!