As the title suggests - I not doing so well at the moment. I’ve been with my husband for 27 years, since I was 18. So my whole adult life. We’ve had problems on and off for many years. I believe he’s a covert narcissist. He frequently makes me feel bad about myself. He doesn’t support me when I need him. He picked an argument with me the night before surgery last year. In October I had surgery again and he has been cold and monosyllabic since. You could cut the atmosphere with a knife. I feel that he’s reached a decision too. We have 4 kids. Eldest is 24, youngest is 11. We would hug every day and say love you everyday but haven’t since the morning of my surgery in October. As I was leaving for the hospital - I asked him for a hug (got one) and said ‘love you’, he didn’t say it back. I was having a hysterectomy so fairly major surgery. We haven’t hugged or said love you once since.
I’m terrified of having ‘the conversation’. And I’m absolutely petrified of the prospect of doing it alone.