Scared to have the talk

[chasegirl]

Been seeing this man for a few months when restrictions allow. We text every day and speak on the phone 2 to 3 times a week. He lives about 15 miles from me.

I like him a lot but am scared to have the talk for a few reasons.

I can't unpick if I am feeling so lonely due to covid stuff and have just latched onto him or if I really want him.

Plus I don't feel like I could cope if he doesn't want to move to the next level. Normally I would be OK and be able to keep busy etc so would get over him OK but that's not possible right now.

But then I feel like I do need to know as I don't feel secure with this.

I hate this limbo feeling and can't seem to shake it off.

Any advice? Hope this makes sense.

It makes perfect sense as I'm in the same scenario.
Old friend I know from nearly 20 years ago, met up for a friendly drink 3 months ago before pubs shut and boom...
See each other once a fortnight with him having his kids on other weekends.
I'm wondering too if it's just out of the loneliness as I separated from my husband 14 months ago and finding it so hard living on my own, not being able to socialise in person with my nearest and dearest.
I'm being 'cool' on the outside, but inside I think I would have a meltdown if it didn't work out and doesn't feel healthy.

It does not feel healthy at all! I can't see a way out at the moment tho. Trapped by loneliness and weird grief feelings. This sucks

Do you get to see him at all?
After we spend the night together, one of us always has to go off early because we both have cats and work funny hours.
Another lockdown choice!
And I just feel even more empty then after seeing him, not to be crude, but like dial-a-whore. Even got lingerie for Christmas, so obvious how he sees me

Similar here too. He works shifts and does overtime and I have every other weekend child free so see him maybe twice a month, sometimes only once tho.

Yes to the empty feeling when the time is up. Not much forward planning goes on tho do never sure when we will meet up. This does ring alarms for me but then I don't know if I expect too much given his shifts and covid.