Contrary to my name, I'm not longer pregnant. Instead I have a 2 month old baby and an almost 10 year old (not his) but I'm still sad.
My relationship is just awful. My posting history would suggest that I should have been asking these questions a long time ago. But at least I'm here now.
How do you leave someone? Not emotionally..I checked out a while ago..but physically. I'm on maternity leave and I have an older child who is on the cusp of being diagnosed with autism. My not so DH (who I'm convinced is also on the spectrum) works far too much to be of any help now and we are all in the same house, so what on earth will that look like once we no longer live together?!
I don't have any assets, just debts which I've finally started to manage to get myself out of the hole. I don't have any family, even his, who I adore, are too far away to be of any help.
Where would I love? My credit rating wouldn't support my living independently. I know there's council/housing association but surely I would be waiting a long time? I live in the suburbs of a minor city.
How would I continue to work whilst managing childcare for 2? I remember trying with just 1 and it broke me!!
The only thing I do know is that sooner or later I need to leave this marriage and sooner would work better for my mental health and that of the baby. My older child however, well that's going to be a shit show whenever it's done 