A good for now relationship

[Doddlebug2000]

Just that really. I've been seeing my bf on and off for a year now. I have a laugh with him and we have a nice enough time together, sex is amazing which helps!!
However, I know he's not someone I want to have a future with or progress any with. So in a sense he's good for where I am just now.
He can be a bit dull at times and both shy and introverted. I find sometimes we are together it's on point and it's a great energy, but others he seems to be so withdrawn into himself, its hard to explain really. This isn't enough for me in the long run.
He is also very set in his ways as he has been single a long time so he's out of practice with being part of a relationship, where as I split with my dh of 10 years and then started with him pretty soon after.
So I know I'm not madly in love with him, I can't see him in my long term future, but he's good for just now as a companion and as someone to look forward to text, see, get dressed up for etc

I know alot of responses will say well what does he think about it, here's the other issue, he does not ever talk about his feelings, what he wants out of life, where he wants this to go....nada
He will only answer questions if I ask and I'll often skirt around the answer.

Can anyone relate to this kind of relationship?

"I know alot of responses will say well what does he think about it, here's the other issue, he does not ever talk about his feelings, what he wants out of life, where he wants this to go....nada"

I suspect this is the reason why he's single. He's probably afraid of being hurt or he just likes the security of being on his own. This is why he's a non starter. I do understand to OP. I've been talking to someone on line for ages. Met him once briefly outside. He's a really nice person and I know he wants a relationship with me but I can't even attempt anything at the minute because of Covid and the risk for him because he's immunosuppressed. And I'm not sure because of his reluctance to talk. So we are just friends currently. There is a second guy I've been seeing for a few months. He's older, interesting and great sex. I can't see a future with him either. But I do like his company. I'm 50. I don't expect to meet the one ever to be honest.

As long as he knows where he stands then it's fine. If not then you're being very selfish.

He's never said he loves me, he knows I've been married and have had my kids so I don't want more kids or to be married again and he knows I never want to live with someone and neither does he.
I spoke to him the other day and said would he want this to progress any further between us or is he happy just living in the now. He said hes happy with what we have now.
I'm not going to turn round say I'm using him, I'm not using him, it's him I do like having. When we were off in summer I had another fwb who was very keen to carry on with me but I ended it with him as I missed my now bf so there's definitely something there. I just don't think it's for the long term.
I fancy him alot. I think I am being honest with him?

Well you have your answers. He knows the score. You've had some odd answers on here about being selfish when it seems clear to me the reason you can't see this progressing is because he likes things as they are. He would have made it clear to you if the current situation wasn't working for him.

Doddlebug2000 I know where you are coming from with your post. I am in the same situation, but unsure if this is exaggerated by the whole Covid thing. I think after the initial excitement wears off & we get to know a person we see things that make us question whether the person is the right one for us.
I care for my partner & we enjoy each other's company ( & great sex), but I definitely couldn't live with him. Luckily he feels the same way . We both like a lot of space! With saying that I think I'd be like this whoever I was with ( bad marriage previously)
I don't think it's wrong to carry on as you are if you're both honest about the relationship & you're both happy.
As my friend says, maybe not Mr Right, but Mr Right now.
Not really much advice here, just saying go with what suits you.