DH and I are going through a bit of a rough patch. We've been together 10 years and have 3 DCs. He has been WFH and I have been out of work since March due to covid. So we have mostly spent the last few months pushed together 24/7. DH does not have much going on apart from work and family. His hobby has been cancelled and he can visit his parents (something he normally does frequently). He is leaning on me and I have run out of energy in being his sole support. I have a Generalised anxiety disorder which I am currently trying to manage without medication.
We are niggling and bickering constantly - even getting to rows (it takes a lot for DH to shout back - although he is a PA master). Everything he does annoys me and I feel like I am constantly picking fights. The last straw today was that I finally gave in and cleaned the en-suite (I had been waiting for him to do it...1 month...) which I was fine with but as soon as I had done it I found him redoing it with the steam cleaner. He does this - if an area is too messy or dirty he won't touch it - but if I do it then he will do it again after... drives me up the fucking wall.
If I ask if he slept ok in the morning I get a list of if I snored, or hogged the duvet etc. Everything is a list of gripes. Topped off by being picky and PA (DH isn't normally like this but it come out when he is depressed and stressed -which he is due to covid)
He tries to get close by initiating cuddles and intimacy but my libido is in the gutter - I've gained weight in lockdown and feel bad about it. I am peri- menopausal and have found sex a bit disastrous since the birth of DC3 a few years ago. I feel he blows hot and cold with the demands of affection/ list of complaints and do not want to reciprocate. He gets grumpy its a vicious circle (there are also issues with ED which make things more awkward when we finally get going).
Then I am back to being irritated by everything he says and does. If this has happened before then we have both taken the opportunity to have some space away from each other. Now we are both stuck in tier 4. Please give me some advice as the atmosphere in the house has been lousy the last few days and DC1 is picking up on it.