Just looking an outside perspective really. I moved in with my DP at the beginning of February just before first lockdown. It didn't take long for things to escalate. We were both drinking too much, things got physical and he spent the night in a police cell. I made the choice to drop the charges as I could see fault on both sides.
Anyway, since then he hasn't been living with me as I don't think it would work for us after what happened last time but we've been in touch constantly during the day, I see him at least every other day and we stay at each other's houses regularly. We are still in a relationship.
The reason I'm annoyed is that he hasn't told his family we're back together. Apparently his mum hates me as she thinks I called the police nevermind the fact her DS was arrested for being violent. Confidentially, I didn't call the police, the neighbours did not that it matters.
He is currently at his parents house for the Christmas holidays and while he has been texting me I only get a 2 minute sneaky phonecall per day while he is out having a smoke. I feel like I have been totally used and that I'm ok for company when I'm in the town we both live in but as soon as he's with others and especially his family I'm the dirty little secret that he can't tell anyone about.
I told him this last night (through text message as he couldn't pick up the phone). Said I didn't see how our "relationship" had any kind of future if he couldn't man up and tell his family about us. We are not children-both in our 30s and I am not being with this man child any longer if he can't treat me with respect. It has only been over the last few days that I have realised to what extent his family really have no clue we're still together.
I haven't contacted him today and he can basically fuck off. I think he thinks I was just being hot-headed and will come back today to apologise. No way!!
Just needed to get that out there. Thank you. I'm fuming.