What should I do after a lifetime together.

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After 33 years of marriage I know it’s over but what do you actually say or how do you move on ? My husband seems to just moan all day long about everything and anything (things that don’t even concern him!) Anyway, he has worn me right down , he can’t say anything nice about me but I also know he can’t really live/cope without me either ! I want freedom , I don’t want another man I just just want to come home from work and not listen to someone being so negative .
We have brought up our family (6 children) who we are all so proud of (I am 53) . I know I love and care for him but I don’t think I’m ‘in love with him’ which actually hurts and difficult to admit .
Anyone else in or have been in this situation? If so, I would love to hear your thoughts / experience.
Thanks x

You are young enough to start over without him. You don't have to waste the rest of your life looking after him despite the number of years you have been together. His uselessness is not your problem. It can be an amicable split if he will agree that but you have to have the conversation where you tell him you want to separate.

Think of the practicalities, where will you live, can you afford to rent and one buy the other out of your house (if you own it). Do you have a secure job. Are you working full time? Generally, it is much better if you have a plan in mind before you broach things so that if it becomes impossible to stay then you have an idea sketched out of your future.

Have you taken the time to sit down and talk to him about it? Have you considered marriage counselling? If you have tried these and it hasnt worked the I would cut my losses and leave 53 is no age and you have so much life to live.