I need some advice please. I just don't know where to go from here. I've been married to DH for 10 years, together for 16 years. Got 2 DS, 7 and 3 yrs old. My 7 year old has ASD (Aspergers). When we had kids I went part time at work to accomodate my husbands shift patterns so I earn less than him. We both have a car and a mortgage which we contribute equally to. My issue is that I am unhappy and don't know where to go from here. I feel like he is always unhappy and as a result the whole family tip toes around him. He has no patience with the kids and has zero interest in spending time with them or taking them out. He shouts at them constantly and micro manages everything they do. It drives me insane. We argue about it daily and I'm conscience that this situation isn't healthy for the kids. We don't share a bedroom anymore as he is overweight and snores all night which keeps me awake. I also have zero interest in intimacy with him because I just can't see past his poor attitude towards us all. When he is out we are all great, as soon as he is home I feel my heart sink. He is a good provider, he works hard but this isn't enough anymore. We talk about this issue constantly and he promises to change but it lasts a day or two then things are back to 'normal'. I've tried to help with lifestyle changes to improve his mood, suggested a visit to the doctors, hang out with friends, golf etc but again no interest in changing. I don't know what else to do. How do I get out of this marriage? I have nowhere to go as I'm not close to my family. I asked him previously to move out for a short while to see if that would give us new perspective but he refuses. My thoughts are we seperate but share the house for 2 years (we live in Scotland) and then sell it. The problem is I don't earn enough for a new mortgage on my own. Do I just wait it out for a few years until the kids can look after themselves? Looking for people who have different arrangements who can offer a bit of advice. Thanks for reading