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Ex being weird

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bibliomania · 27/12/2020 19:52

Dd(13) stopped seeing her father about three months ago. Sad but the right thing to do - he was very emotionally manipulative and pretty awful to her, in between bouts of "Daddy loves you! Here is a pile of presents".

Today I looked at his Facebook - yes, I see where I went wrong. He has posted a load of photos of a soft toy in a wig (looks like dd's hair) wearing DD's old clothes, posing in a playground. Dd wouldn't go near a playground these days anyway. Is it.... funny? It was like a still from Psycho.

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lovet · 27/12/2020 19:54

Erm...a soft toy? That's weirdConfused

Peachy92 · 27/12/2020 19:57

I'd comment and ask why he's taking dolls that look like his daughter to the playground ...

category12 · 27/12/2020 19:57

Seriously?

Does he have mental health issues you were previously aware of/

dancemom · 27/12/2020 19:58

That's creepy. Are there any words or comments on the posts?

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bibliomania · 27/12/2020 20:10

His post says they went to the playground and their usual cafe, with lots of smiley faces.

I think it's best for me not to comment on his post. If it's an attention thing, best not to feed it.

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bibliomania · 27/12/2020 20:11

Genuinely don't know about my.

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missrks · 27/12/2020 20:12

Wow.

litterbird · 27/12/2020 20:12

It might be a good idea to screen shot anything peculiar as it may be needed as evidence if things go really weird. However this is quite an odd thing to do. It shouts of mental health issues.

DontBeShelfish · 27/12/2020 20:15

Blimey, OP. This sounds pretty weird. Is he the type to make weird jokes that only he finds funny?

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bibliomania · 27/12/2020 20:16

"my" should have been "mh".

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bibliomania · 27/12/2020 20:17

Yes, could be just strange joke.

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Peachy92 · 27/12/2020 20:19

But it might also shut it down.. because there's nothing worse than doing something embarrassing and being pulled on it in public. Definitely screen shot for evidence in case... if not then dm and tell him you think is pretty weird and you think he needs to take it down

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bibliomania · 27/12/2020 20:25

Screenshots are a good idea. Probably best for me to back away from it. Hope he didn't freak people while doing his strange little photoshoot.

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Redflaggs · 27/12/2020 20:49

@bibliomania Manipulation and attention seeking!
Definitely screenshot

My ex's ex current bf - came up as someone to add on insta ( which was weird as I had blocked them all) she was very angry at my ex ( partly right to be) but it wasn't my business to be involved in, as due to her never wanting to talk to me but just act weird in SM etc. I blocked.

Anyway, as I went to block I saw the bio, it was his three dc names and ' you will always be part of our family'

Then 6 pictures of his two New dc's with my ex's ex and my ex and her dc.

It screamed manipulation, he hasn't been part of his 3 dc life's for over 4 years, from when he got with her and then now this insta set up especially.

I don't have a clue but 2020 has got people acting extra weird and forgetting not everything needs to be put on SM.

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bibliomania · 27/12/2020 20:52

Yes, sounds right, Redflaggs..

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popsydoodle4444 · 27/12/2020 22:10

That's really f'ed up.Either he's trying to prove some weird point and is a up yours to your daughter which is emotionally abusive or he's completely lost the plot.I'm hoping he's lost it as the first option is really horrible for your DD.

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bibliomania · 27/12/2020 22:56

Yup. I will not be showing it to dd and I don't think she'll go looking, so hopefully she'll never know.

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Ginger1982 · 27/12/2020 23:03

Is it obvious it was a soft toy? Will everyone else on his FB not think it's weird too?

DeadSouth · 27/12/2020 23:06

Are you friendly with any of his family you could flag it to for advice? It’s kind of scary.

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bibliomania · 27/12/2020 23:11

Can't talk to his family, who are mostly in a different country. He is quite isolated.

Yes, very obviously a soft toy in a wig, dress and jacket.

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bibliomania · 27/12/2020 23:12

Fb comments are all just "Happy Christmas". Maybe it's just a joke but it's a pretty melancholy one.

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