Im not seperated yet, still trying to find the strength, hoping 2021 will be the year i do it.
Im mainly scared of the logistics because weve been together 20 years and ive never been alone. Been with him since i was 18.
We have a home that i own so would stay in. My dad would buy him out. (Written into deeds) But the house maintence would be too much for me, especially the garden. I dont know how i would manage. Im a houswife so no income but would go back to work if i had to. Hes always done the diy and garden.
How do you choose who gets what furniture etc? I wouldnt even know where to begin. Hes bought everything we own .
My other worry is my dad is very interfering and i think he would make it stressful for me. He would want to be involved in the divorce because it involves some of his money. He would want to be involved if i wanted to move house.
The main reason i want to seperate is to have my own life but i dont think i can because of my dad! He treats me like a child.
Being apart from my kids is what has been holding me back mostly but ive just got to do it. I know he wont want to. What do i do if he refuses? Hes a nice man but he holds grudges and has a nasty streak. I know hed make things difficult for me