lost a parent the other day and am utterly devastated but am coping in my own way. I am lucky to have some good friends but am I being rude by wanting to tell them to just leave me alone for a bit? There are very few people I have the mental energy to talk to at the moment but I am being what feels like bombarded by texts from people checking in, telling me how awful I must feel, telling me it must feel even worse given the time of year etc. I have told people that send messages that I’m doing ok in the circumstances, that I need some head space to come to terms with things and that I appreciate their concern and will be in touch if I need anything. And they keep on texting. I don’t know if it’s the grief talking or if I am being rude and ungrateful in just wishing that they’d leave me alone! I’m even more resentful of the fact that this is taking up energy in thinking about it when I have other things to deal with such as my own feelings and those of my kids. I know I should be grateful that they care and am wondering if I am completely out of order here- i just want them to leave me in peace- how do I tell them this in a way that actually works this time without coming across as a complete cow?