So DH & I have not been getting along for quite some time - I feel no matter what I do he finds fault. We have a “good” life - good friends, nice house, financially secure and 3 children under 10. So the positives are he’s a good dad and happy to help around the house. The negatives - I feel no love/affection from him, there is no emotional connection what so ever and I feel like we are business partners rather than husband/wife.
I have tried numerous times for us to talk about it and I’ve broken down and told him how I feel. It always ends with him “going to bed” upstairs int he spare room and then after a few days of us not speaking he thinks everything is fine.
I just feel so unloved in this marriage (we’ve been married 12 years) and I’m really beginning to resent him!
I’ve suggested counciling in the past which he has refused.
Before Christmas I told him I was sick of it and we needed to split. I said I would put a smile on my face for the kids over Christmas but come new year we needed to talk about how we move forward separately. He hasn’t batted an eyelid and when I asked him if he wanted to talk he seemed confused as to why we needed to talk.
So am I wrong to split up a family because I want to feel some love from my husband. When I was sick with Covid it literally felt like he didn’t give a crap and just kept asking are you ok yet! Do husbands that truly care exist?