Anyone else finding boxing day really lonely?

[Worakls]

Evening!
Just after a bit of handhold I suppose really. I know this year Xmas has been very weird for most of us and I was fully prepared for Xmas day to be tough but hadn't factored in the days after.
First year separated and because of covid, it ended up being just me, kids (9 and 5) and ex husband 🙄 (whom I left in January after his 3rd affair proved too much!). Was actually okay, a bit awkward and i got emotional once just remeniscing about family life but I made it through. He left this morning and I've been super emotional all day and very down. We're tier 3 but surrounded by tier 4 areas so can't go anywhere or meet any friends (they live in tier 4). My family all live abroad with the exception of my mum who lives an hour away but hasn't seen the kids for 15 months despite the year I've obviously had. I have a support bubble with a guy I've been seeing for 5 months now but he hasn't met the kids so we can't see each other and the ex is only having the kids once over the hols. I usually work a lot and have amazing colleagues who make me feel less lonely, so I guess I'm struggling with being off.
Anyone else feeling the same or have any tips to get me out of well of self pity?! 🤣

I sympathise. Today I am spending the day with my partner while my children are with their dad and his new partner. It feels very very strange indeed. I’ve had a lovely relaxing day but it’s different so it just feels strange altogether. Hopefully next year things will be more normal and we can spend time with other family members x

I totally get it. Spent yesterday with ex and kids while he spent the whole day looking at his watch and counting down the minutes until he could leave to be with the OW who he left me for.
It was just me and the kids today which was better but yes lonely. Christmas was always the only time we both had at least 2 weeks off as a family so it is hard spending it alone with the kids.
Just going to try and have a relaxing week before I go back to work. Hope you are feeling a bit better this evening.

Totally with you. We separated at the beginning of December. OH came home yesterday morning to spend the day here with the kids. Was a tad awkward but we made it through, he left around 4pm and the girls and I went to my parents for xmas dinner and more presents. Ended up stopping there for the night. I slept through till lunchtime today (recovering from covid) and have just felt off since getting up. Doesn't feel at all festive to me this year. Had very little in terms of gifts and just feel on the sidelines really.

Sorry to hear others are the same. What a year hey 😩. Unfortunately I've had the ex texting me this evening apologising again for what he did and asking if I could ever bring myself to try again. Made me feel really shitty and makes me doubt everything. I've done so much work (therapy) to get to this point and he sends me spiralling right back with comments like these.

Sending hugs!

It's very weird spending time with a new ex over Christmas. I'm in that boat, and also get the doubt. I just feel weird. He's just gone. And it's weird.

I’m a lone parent and my ex hasn’t even bothered/ asked to see the kids for Xmas but that’s not unusual for him. So yes super lonely as don’t meet with anyone either,
My mum lives 10 mins away but never invited us or asked to see the kids so just left it.

Me too :(

A third affair eh? I think it's pretty hard to come back from that. It's quite clearly a pattern. He wants to have his cake & eat it or has psychological issues he needs to speak to a therapist about.

@Givemeabreak88 what is with these mothers? I just don't get it. I can't imagine ever wanting to not see my children nor grandchildren over Xmas 😩.
@artisanmarsbar yeah weird sums it up doesn't it.
@EarthSight sorry you're feeling the same. And yes 3 affairs in 10 years... But he has said he has a psychological issue and wants to get help. But... He doesn't seem to understand that for me it's too late. No coming back from the hurt he's caused me over the years and the damage he's done to my self-esteem, not to mention the fact that's he's broken our family up. I do wish I could believe him and we could happily ever after as our little family unit, but that's not a reality is it?