Stopping contact?

[Givemeabreak88]

I’ve posted about my ex a lot but I don’t really have anyone irl to discuss this with, I want to stop contact with my children and their father, he wouldn’t care much and wouldn’t take me to court or anything like that, he sees them as and when he feels like it and never takes them or has them over night, so he might come down occasionally and see them for a few hours (he acts like this is a huge favour to me?) he’s never taken them anywhere or to his house. He hasn’t seen them in around 8 weeks now and regularly doesn’t see them for weeks/months at a time (has also been absent for a year) I want to stop contact but I’m feeling really guilty about it, is it over ok to stop contact ? He spoke to them yesterday on the phone (first time in months, never asks to see them at Xmas and never usually calls) and said he might see them next week: like I said he acts like him seeing them is a favour to me, it isnt, I do everything then he pops to see them for a few hours a month when he has some free time.

How do your children feel about the situation?

Honestly yes I would stop contact until he can prove he can be consistent. Picking up the pieces every time he let the children down would be enough for me. An inconsistent parent is worse than an absent parent.

My two oldest have autism so don’t really understand my son says stuff like “can I get a new dad or is it too late” he’s asked me why he’s dad doesn’t like him, my daughter when through a phase (where he was absent for a year) of practically begging every male member of staff at school to be her dad, then I have my 6 year old who doesn’t like him but the 3 year old is obviously too young to understand

To add I told my ex what they had been saying and he didn’t believe me