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What would you do?

9 replies

Mama178 · 26/12/2020 11:25

I have my sister living with me temporarily. Since moving in she has become extremely close to my Husband. She talks to him about everything there is a problem with, stays up late with him. Yesterday (Christmas day) she wanted to sit next to him at the table, she ended up sitting opposite. Then she insisted on going with him to collect my other siblings from my dads (they're young). She wore the most revealing shortest dress and when they came back they had an inside joke going on that i still don't know. We then went back to my other sisters house for tea and she immediately sat right beside my husband on the sofa so I couldn't get anywhere near him. Then when he was talking to me she was trying to get his attention by showing him videos etc. When we got home we was going to watch the polar express as it's one of our favourite Christmas films but she suggested they play fifa 21 (I got it for him for Christmas) so they sat there and played the game. Meanwhile I was tidying up all the mess and putting our child's toys back together ready for this morning. I'm not sure what to do in all honesty as it's been going on for a few days now. I barely spoke to my husband yesterday and due to his work it was our first Christmas together. What would you do?

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Sideorderofchips · 26/12/2020 11:30

Have it out with her. I had a friend who behaved like this and she got right between us ending with us splitting

Nomoresleeps · 26/12/2020 11:32

What does your husband have to say about it? How is he responding to her behaviour?

No I wouldn’t be happy about that. I would call them out on it at the time eg tell them to come and help you not get cosy on the sofa together playing games.

Even better, tell her it’s one to move on ASAP.

Nomoresleeps · 26/12/2020 11:32

It’s time to move on, I mean

HollowTalk · 26/12/2020 11:35

I would tell her that her living with you and monopolising your husband isn't working for you and that she needs to leave. It's outrageous that she's behaving like this.

FoxtrotOscarPoppet · 26/12/2020 11:36

Alarm bells are ringing.
Time for her to go.

thefourgp · 26/12/2020 11:37

Kick her out. She’s flirting with your husband and he’s flirting right back. Actions speak louder than words.

BrandoraPaithwaite · 26/12/2020 13:18

Speak to your husband about it and go from there.

Classic case of a DH issue in the first instance.

Lozzerbmc · 26/12/2020 13:23

I would tell her its not working out with her living there and she’ll need to find somewhere else to live asap. If she cant behave respectfully in your home then why should you support her?

lilylongjohn · 26/12/2020 13:26

Why is she living with you? Does she have anywhere else to go?

I think you need to have a chat with your dh and find out his take in this, is he aware of it, he might be feeling uncomfortable about it.
Either way I think you need to have it out with her. She either packs it in or moves out.

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