Confused feelings

[Calemama]

I’ve recently gone back into work after a long spell away looking after family. I’ve been married for over 10 years & ive never really thought about being with anyone else.

Since starting this job I’ve felt really attracted to my boss. He’s really nice to me and attractive also, so much so that I find it difficult to even look I’m in the eye sometimes! I feel like a bloody teenager again thinking about him all the time like an obsessive school girl! Seriously what’s wrong with me? I’m in a day dream most of day and totally distracted by my thoughts and I find myself counting down the hours until i go back to work!!

This is crazy behaviour, what can I do ?

Its a crush. As long as you dont act on it, no harm done. It will fade over time, when you stop seeing him as mr perfect.

Are you happy with your partner, really? Thats where i would focus. Is it over or are you just a bit bored and needing to spice things up.

I don’t really know to be honest.

It’s just strange to me that in all the years I’ve been together with oh I’ve never ever felt this way before and it’s got me wondering what if I’m not with the right person after all? I’m so confused & cant wait for my next working day, even if just to say hello! I’m bloody mad

One option regarding what to do is nothing.

If you doubt your relationship with your current partner, deal with that first. If you deal with it whilst getting together with someone new, it'll be messy and disrespectful to your partner. If the new person is worth being with, they'll still be around for you once you've dealt with the immediate issue.

There are two problems here, not one. Deal with them in the right order.