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DH is not my responsibility...?

10 replies

faithfulbird20 · 24/12/2020 22:43

How do I learn that and not forget it. I've just realised that since my marriage I've given up a lot of things and he's taken advantage of that. He's not my responsibility. I'm a SAHM and he doesn't really support me. I have to argue about every penny I spent or can't use. I don't even buy much for myself and I don't think that's fair. He does let me use it but he's really stingy. He's not grateful for me. I'm really frugal and try to save but he never saves.

He gives his parents money and then I think why do I buy cheap stuff just so that we can save. We don't have our own house either we rent. I try to save as much as we can but it's his job to save it and he doesn't.

OP posts:
AnneLovesGilbert · 24/12/2020 22:45

You need to leave him. Your thread title is odd,

Bananalanacake · 24/12/2020 23:26

He is financially abusive.

HollowTalk · 24/12/2020 23:43

God, get rid. That's no kind of life.

LolaSmiles · 24/12/2020 23:46

It sounds like an odd set up and you're not financially compatible.

What are you getting out of the relationship (beyond I'm guessing him covering rent and bills)?

AccidentallyOnSanta · 25/12/2020 01:40

What do you mean by your responsibility?

He's a grownup, he's vaccinated, he has mental capacity. He does what he wants while you do (barely) what you can.

Even if you wanted to you couldn't be responsible for him.

Aquamarine1029 · 25/12/2020 01:43

Run for your life.

BlueThistles · 25/12/2020 03:25

Leave the prick 🌺

Lullaby88 · 25/12/2020 05:31

Easy to say leave him, hows ur relationship otherwise? I rekon its unfair to be honest... don't pick up everything after him.. also hav u considered getting a side income so ur not fully dependent on him?

Shoxfordian · 25/12/2020 06:46

He sounds like a knob

AspiringAmazon · 25/12/2020 07:34

Have you considered going back to work?

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