My exdh had the stereotypical affair with a colleague last year. He left and carried it on with her then came back saying he was confused etc so I let him lead me on a merry dance and a few times I found out he had still being in touch with her then he stopped contact, said it was me he loved but weeks later reverted back to hot and cold behaviour. I’d had enough at this point (finally!! I hear you say) so I told him to leave. He said it was nothing to do with her but he’d given it his all and just couldn’t fall back in love with me (even though numerous times he has sworn to me he does). Yesterday a friend of mine saw her going into his house.
I’m just not n absolute shock. All this time I have defended him and really tried my hardest to see the best in him, but how could he do this to me? How could he disrespect me this much? All I can think of is what our daughter would think of him if she found out how he has treat her mother.
I really wanted to remain amicable with him and I feel like his constant lies have put a dampener on that. Part of me wants to go crazy at him and also inform her of everything but I won’t. That’s not what’s best for my kids.