My dh and I have an okay relationship. The pressure probably comes a lot from the fact that two of our children have Sen. Both have complex needs but the youngest has profound needs which will require care all his life. He’ll never independently be able to live. When our middle child was born we both decided it would be better if one of us stayed at home. My dh said it would be better that it was me. And in the long run it has been better as my husband has very little patience which when it runs out he can get angry.
I’m now working PT but a lot still falls to me. My dh does the food shop (he believes he can get better deals on food as he’s a finance professional so he prefers it as he can maximise our food shop). I still do all the caring, cleaning, washing and ironing. My dh will cook the occasional meal and handles the finance stuff. I’m not happy but I’m not unhappy. My dh attitude to money (he used to sweep any spare money into his isa) is an issue as is his anger. If a plan goes slightly off course he gets cross. Even if he says nothing you can feel the anger simmering slightly. He’s quite intense.
I’m likely to come into money from a relatives estate. It’s probably around 40k and I haven’t mentioned anything yet to my husband. We have the same amount of money in our savings but from working he obviously has a good pension. Having just got back to work, I have relatively no pension. Both our salaries go into the joint. The only thing that goes into my account is benefits for the kids. We’re working on our house which has come out of another of my early inheritance. I’ll also inherit again unless my parents go into care. The question is, my marriage is up and down. I have little in the way of savings and no pension. Would it be unreasonable to put my inheritance into savings?