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Anyone else got a selfish husband? Or is this just the norm?

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tumpymummy · 23/12/2020 14:28

My husband has done f**k all to prepare for christmas this year. I've bought all the kids presents, done most of the food shopping. Which is the norm, so I'm not surprised. But the most selfish thing this year is that he wont take a covid test before we see my parents on christmas day. I could get one through work and for people in my household, but he wouldn't do it. Said that he was quite happy with his routine atm and didn't want a test telling him that he might have to isolate. He's convinced he hasn't got it because he hasn't given it to anyone that he works with! Our tests have all come back negative, so he says that he cant have it if we dont. He's probably right, but the fact that he wasn't prepared to take a test to help keep my parents safe has upset me. I thought he liked them, but obviously not enough. We've been together 30 years, and I've told him in the past that he's selfish. He just thinks he's pragmatic.

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partyatthepalace · 23/12/2020 14:44

Sounds like he's not pulling his weight and you're fed up with him.

He's not the only person to avoid pre-emptive covid tests and track and trace app. At at work we've had problems with false positive tests which create chaos for no reason. False negatives are even more common. So I see where he's coming from there.

But it sounds you need to work out the labour division of your relationship.

Aprilx · 23/12/2020 14:47

People shouldn’t be taking tests when they don’t need to, it causes shortages. It was impossible to get a test recently. If you want to ensure your parents are safe don’t see them, because you could catch it tomorrow anyway.

CoffeeRunner · 23/12/2020 14:50

It doesn’t sound as though there’s any need for him to take a Covid test. He has no symptoms & unless I’m mistaken, hasn’t been in close contact with somebody positive?

The other issues really depend on the conversations you had around it. Have you done all the shopping because you chose to? Or because you knew DH wouldn’t?

Santaisironingwrappingpaper · 23/12/2020 14:52

Leave him at home. Miserable git...

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