Ignored by men

[Yuletard]

This is an ongoing problem.
It seems that when I'm in a social situation with some other men (who tend to be popular, well educated, done well for themselves) I get ignored, talked over and unnoticed.
I have male friends who this doesn't happen with, but I notice it a lot within DHs social circles. I also notice that they don't treat other women in the group like this.
They'll ask me some things and speak to me vaguely, but if I initiate certain topics or conversation, I seem to get the brush off.

My Dad treats me like this also.

Why is this happening? I'd like to be able to change it.

I think you are all right. Change your username OP.

Oh!
Okay..
That definition is rather unappealing.
Sorry your thread has been derailed OP

Goodbye2020Hello2021

The Urban dictionary Yuletard be short for Yule B'tard of course...

If it's in urban dictionary it's always the ableist meaning.

Do you say inappropriate things in these social settings OP?

This happens to me a lot. Not just men but women also talk over me, interrupt and can be damn rude. My mil says it tends to happen to the quiet ones. Are you quite shy?

How ironic that OP is asking advice on being ignored only to get ignored by the professionally offended who then derail her thread with their own sense of social importance?
But she did great to ignore it I hope she does the same in RL too mixing with people with over inflated egos it always becomes about them. You all sound a bit precious...

@Mintypylonsfryingsurplus

How ironic that OP is asking advice on being ignored only to get ignored by the professionally offended who then derail her thread with their own sense of social importance? But she did great to ignore it I hope she does the same in RL too mixing with people with over inflated egos it always becomes about them. You all sound a bit precious...

Agree.

I would completely understand the comments if the username was actually the "R" word, but it's literally a made up word she used because Yuletide was taken!

@Mintypylonsfryingsurplus

How ironic that OP is asking advice on being ignored only to get ignored by the professionally offended who then derail her thread with their own sense of social importance? But she did great to ignore it I hope she does the same in RL too mixing with people with over inflated egos it always becomes about them. You all sound a bit precious...

Well said!

OP, are you softly spoken? Could it just be a case of you needing to up the volume a bit?

@Mintypylonsfryingsurplus

How ironic that OP is asking advice on being ignored only to get ignored by the professionally offended who then derail her thread with their own sense of social importance? But she did great to ignore it I hope she does the same in RL too mixing with people with over inflated egos it always becomes about them. You all sound a bit precious...

Also agree. The responses were actually embarrassing to read.

Goodness you must be very easily embarrassed.

^How ironic that OP is asking advice on being ignored only to get ignored by the professionally offended who then derail her thread with their own sense of social importance?
But she did great to ignore it I hope she does the same in RL too mixing with people with over inflated egos it always becomes about them. You all sound a bit precious...^

This. OP was given great advice about dismissing others, she needs to deploy it on this thread. OP - you have explained your choice of name, so ignore the comments about it and don't refer to it again whatever the provocation. Are people really like this in RL, so quick to jump on somebody for no good reason other than them being mock offended.

@trixiebelden77

Goodness you must be very easily embarrassed.

And another twatty comment.

Honestly OP I would try to foster a new group of friends that are more on the same wavelength as you.

Really didn't anticipate all of this over a username.
I actually work with children who have a range of physical and mental disabilities so I can assure you that there was no intended pun, or put down in that respect.

I genuinely typed "yuletide" as a username.
It was taken.
I typed yulet...
And added "ard" without even thinking. Imagine saying yuletide with in a weird accent... it kind of went from there.
Apologies to those I've somehow offended 🙄.
Perhaps I'm a little socially unaware afterall!

I don't think you are socially unaware, some people on this site like to give people a mauling for no reason.

Re the original problem....

The men in my family can be like this when they get together but it's more like they are all competing for attention with each other and it can be hard to get a word in edge ways. They also favour topics that often make me yawn, frankly. It's always about 'issues' rather than personal stuff.

It is annoying though usually I'm happy to talk with the other women or younger people there.

Could it be they are a showing off to each other? (And only want male attention?)