Relationship

[Caro321]

Hi I am posting this for advice. I'm a lady in her 50s I have a partner who is often snappy and bad tempered. He is sometimes ok but has mood swings . We have not had a physical relationship for years as he sleeps separately. I worry cos I'm in my 50s this is going to be it forever. He recently has seemed more snappy and more moany .I have tried talking but he often changes subject or ignores things

I think everyone is under massive stress at this moment. So that’s less of an issue.
I would worry about the longer issues of lack of intimacy and sleeping separately.

Sounds like you are co habitating friends not partners. Do I have it wrong?

Do you think maybe you've outgrown each other? 50 is not too late to start again.

@Caro321

You ok?

Yes I'm in my late 50s .worried. still have teenage son who is struggling. Feel any change would upset him . Feel everything is doom snd gloom with my partner .hes always moaning about trivial stuff .hard work .trying to not react .

Thanks for all your comments btw

This is the current situation. My husband has long term health conditions but also mental health issues which are getting worse. Now prone to unpredictable mood swings/outbursts. I have known for some time that I cannot continue in this relationship. Atmosphere very stressful. I have my own health conditions made worse by stress. My daughter and 3 Yr old grandson live with us. My daughter knows my thoughts now which is a relief. Last week there was an unpredictable outburst involving my grandson so my daughter and I agreed we need to take action now. My strong support network have given me various advice. My husband has an obsession with knives and I have at least got him to put them all but one into the shed which we lock. He says he keeps one by the bed in case of burglary as he feels vulnerable!! Thongs I've considered in preparation incase he flips.
My daughter and I take him out to tell him rather than in the house. Having someone with us when we tell him like his friend. Ringing 101 and logging that he's a potential threat. Involving adult social services as his care plan is with him. I'm getting very stressed trying to "prepare" .