Dating during Covid.

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I haven't dated since April. I went on one SD date during easing of restrictions in August but have since decided if I'm not going to risk it to see the ones I love, I'm sure as hell not going to risk it for some random bloke onlin, it's just not important enough.
It just makes me wonder if I'm in the minority, there seems to be so many people just going out doing their thing, where as I am absolutely petrified about dating at the moment, maybe it's just me.
I'm now in a tier 4 area so the option has been ompletely removed for me, which actually makes me feel so much more relaxed about not dating, or even knowing I can consider it for a while, on the other hand I do think why would you even bother the way things are.

I’m not at the moment. There’s just no point. I don’t want a penpal and there’s less and less places you can go to on a date.

Yeah absolutely, thats how i feel. I just cba. Ive bubbled with my sister and if im going to meet anyone outside it will be a friend. Havent net a bloke yet whos worth more than one of my mates . Fully expect to be single for a whole other year because of covid. Maybe by then I'll decide not to bother at all.

I’ve dabbled in old since August. Been on a few very low key walking dates, and one in Sept where we actually had a coffee, v exciting Oh and one via zoom where we had a drink and chatted. All reasonable blokes (I’m v careful and screen ruthlessly so no weirdos) but none right for me romantically yet.
In some ways I think Covid and the whole social distance thing has taken the pressure off. It’s a slower pace - and messaging a bit means you get more of a sense of the person.

I might get flamed but I really don’t see why people insist on dating at the moment, it sounds really awkward if I’m being honest, why not just wait but mind you I’ve been single for 3 years (no dates at all) I guess some people just can’t bare to be single seems a bit desperate tbh, I’ve also heard of so many people moving in with people they barely know because it being the only way they can maintain their relationship, so I disagree with pp saying it makes people go slower, I’ve noticed the opposite! So many people are moving in with people they’ve been dating a few months because they are “part of their bubble”

I guess some people just can’t bare to be single seems a bit desperate tbh

Really sad that you think that.

I’m at the stage where I’d love to meet someone and settle down. Doesn’t mean I’m desperate You can still date, exchange messages, talk on the phone and go for socially distanced walks. The pandemic is going to continue for a while yet, but dating doesn’t need to stop.

I think all this talking on the phone
and messaging creates a false sense of intimacy personally hence people rushing to move in with people they’ve known a few months because they are “part of their support bubble” I would wait until things were back to normal, but that’s just me, and like I’ve said I’ve been single for 3 years so maybe some people just don’t like being single for long so struggle with putting dating on hold, we are in the middle of a pandemic, dating can wait.

I'm finding it so hard. I've done walking dates but they're not the same as normal dates because you don't get the eye contact or body language etc. I'm 30 and I just feel like my personal life is on hold whilst corona is around. My friends who are in relationships have all progressed this year eg moved in together, got engaged etc. I'm so jealous that they have someone to share this horrible time with. I've just stayed alone and stuck and there seems to be no end in sight with all these continuing lockdowns. It's getting me down.

I'm not desperate but I would like a date once in a while. I've been single for three years with no dates at all. I have been getting myself back together after my marriage breakdown but I felt ready to try dating again in the summer.

Just like anything else, it's about personal choice. If I want to meet a guy for a date that is a risk I have to take. I can't see lockdowns ending any time soon so should I just spend my days watching those already coupled being happy. I can sit on a train, go to a supermarket, go to work but I can't have a date? At some point you have to decide when enough is enough and when to keep living your life.

I met a guy in June just as lockdown was easing, we've been dating 6 months now and he's become my support bubble so we can see each other as normal still. Has made this year actually worthwhile and I adore him. It's been difficult at times as in a lot of time spent at home and not able to go out but I've realised we get on really well doing even the most mundane things and when things have been difficult and we are both stressed we've been a comfort and support to each other. I guess I got quite lucky though.

I feel like there’s no point at the moment but that’s fine with me. I’ve really enjoyed all the alone time this year.
I’m happily single and when I do date it’s cos I sometimes think it would be nice to have someone for weekends away, days out etc so since those are off the table at the moment so is dating for me. I’m being ultra-strict about Covid due to my job so couldn’t progress a relationship anyway.

I do think for me, making the decision not to date was the right one. My support bubble is my sister, I couldn't imagine going for months without seeing her because I'd bubbled with a bloke. To me it just doesn't make sense. Your right though, it has been a horrible year to be single. I usually love being single but being alone this year has seemed different, harder somehow.
But on the other hand I do wonder how many relationships that have started this year will end once we start to get back to some sort of normality. Once we are able to go back to the office, or travel for work. Go on holiday spend time with our family, go to events with friends. It's like they've been created under unnatural conditions. Just my opinion.