From our family straight into another

[AmywithanL]

So I separated from partner just over a month ago, we have a 3 year old together and i have 2 from previous. Anyway, it seems he has gone straight into another relationship with a girl he knows from his footie team, she has 2 children of her own. Am I right to feel abit concerned about my 3 year old spending time with them all together too?? He doesnt really know her and neither do I. Never met her. My ex has already lied to me about them being together, even after I expressed my concerns. I know theres nothing I can do as he is as much right to my son as myself. I just wouldnt even think about introducing anyone new into the equation yet!

I would have concerns. My ex h and I have been separated for over two years, I have had a "new" partner for about 18 months and my 2 sons have only met him recently and only in the park for 40 mins, so if they're already spending a lot of time together, I feel like that's not right

Yes you're completely right OP. Attachment problems and confusion for the kids, all in the name of fake 50-50 equality for men-children that can't parent effectively without a woman in tow.

Screenshot the lies and keep records.

Screenshots for what though? Surely theres nothing I can do? Go to court, but then he is on the birth certificate and I know my son is in no harm. Just like someone mentions the confusion

You might find out that this relationship has been going on before your separation or they were keenly flirting and making it known they had their heads turned for each other? On the plus side he obviously knows her from the team and have spent time together at the pitch. Your 3 year old will adapt but you have a right just to ask questions to your partner. No, you cant stop anything as he can do what he likes and see who he likes but an adult conversation around this is needed to put your mind at ease.

He doesnt know the meaning of an adult converstiaon im afraid, thats the problem. He is very immature for his age.

Lies are lies. I made the mistake of deleting stuff from years ago and he's just escalated everything but now I can't prove. These types don't get any better with age.

If your kids are ok and well looked after then that's really the only important thing.

But it costs you nothing to keep evidence of what he says and does.