How do I move on?

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I fell for someone big time.
I have tried everything and cannot fully move on.
I have a new relationship with a fantastic, loving caring man.
I have blocked 'his' number. Deleted everything. No contact for 18 months now.
He came on to me big time. He had a girlfriend/partner and was talking about moving in with her yet messaged me sexually. Told me he was just with her because he was worried he would end up alone. He settled for her because she wanted him, wanted him to move in. I know he is a dick and a wally and feel sorry for her because he doesn't love her just with her to avoid being alone and will play around. He is not worth her or me but I still cannot move on.

It's an obsessive thought. I have done nothing to contact him. I know he won't contact me - I told him never to contact me again and he will respect that at least. The stupid feeling you get when you meet someone and you have a massive surge of ...whatever it is

Please say anything that you think might help. What helped you if you have ever been in this pathetic and stupide position?

Why did you fall for him if you know he's a dick?

@EpochTime

Why did you fall for him if you know he's a dick?

Just one look. Massive attraction then messages and he very intelligent, funny and interesting. He is still a dick though

You know he was probably lying right? He is unlikely to stay with his partner because he is afraid of being alone. He probably loves her and thinks she's really hot. He just told you those things to get you hooked and into bed.

I would also think he will have forgotten about you by now and be using those lines to get another unsuspecting women to sleep with him.

To put it bluntly, he isn't real, the person you are hankering after was a facade which was all he wanted you to see. He used you and played with your emotions to get what he wanted.

Every time he pops into your head, remind yourself that his memory is no more real than a film character.

Good luck!

Get over him by thinking logically then. He would no doubt be unfaithful to you were you to ever be in a relationship with him? Then that would make you very unhappy. And you don't want to be unhappy do you?

If he was with you, it would not be beyond him to message another woman and say he settled for you.

OP I am in the same boat, stupidly can't get over someone. He was everything I want and my lust for him is insane. He dropped me for another girl 4 months ago, I doubt he remembers I even exist and yet I think about him and cry everyday. I wonder if I will ever get over him, I have no advice whatsoever, I just wanted to say that even though we know these feelings are pointless, I completely understand where you are coming from

@Mermaidwaves

OP I am in the same boat, stupidly can't get over someone. He was everything I want and my lust for him is insane. He dropped me for another girl 4 months ago, I doubt he remembers I even exist and yet I think about him and cry everyday. I wonder if I will ever get over him, I have no advice whatsoever, I just wanted to say that even though we know these feelings are pointless, I completely understand where you are coming from

Awful isn't it.

So illogical, so stupid and yet it continues.

Been there done that, destroyed the t-shirt.

He got to you in a moment when you were vulnerable, for whatever reason. You fell for the imaginary castles in the air, for what might have been, not the lying inadequate cheating tosspot that he actually is.

Forgive yourself. You are human. If I read your OP right, you have a great new relationship. Enjoy it.
The lying tosspot is now spinning the same lines to the gf, to randoms on tinder or whoever.

Which do you want?

I guess working in a stressful job means no thinking head.

You are right - if he was truthful then he has settled in a rubbish relationship and will be spinning the same story to others and not happy.

If he was lying then just after sex and I wasn't looking for that.

Basically, a total waste of space.

I am angry today due to a totally different reason - school in tier 2 very few cases has announced they will not be returning on 5th Jan so focus is on more important things now. Anger has made me wise up and wake up.