I know the answer is no, not really. Not without knowing the people involved! But I'd love some third party opinions please.
About 13 months ago. I met a man. We dated for a few months and I broke it off. Largely because of stress at my work, stress of lockdown, some stuff he was going through that meant he was a bit distant and so I'd got it into my head that he wasn't that into me and ended it. He agreed with it at the time but his voice was shaky at the end of the phone call.
Anyway, he asked if we could remain friends. I agreed but didnt expect anything to come of it. We kept in touch for the the first 3 weeks but didnt see each other. He initiated all contact and, tbh, I was surprised to hear from him. Then we started meeting for the occasional walk in the park. It was really nice. Not awkward, no reference to the break up or us having ever been together. Just nice.
Technically, we are stil in a bubble so the other week, he came round to mine for a bit, we went to a local pub that was doing christmassy food and mulled wine from the car park and it started to feel a bit 'different'. Tbh, it felt like a date. And, when we hugged and kissed goodbye at the end of the night, he kissed me on the lips rather than the cheek. Well, a peck on the corner of the mouth anyway. It was a real 'something there that wasnt there before' moment.
On Friday night, I went round to his for the evening. He cooked and I made mulled wine. I'd made a bit of an effort to look nice and he complimented my hair, my shoes, and the way I looked in general. More than once. But very respectfully, reservedly and politely.
We had a really lovely night. We laughed, talked and danced and sang like idiots to christmas songs in his living room. He put a Frank Sinatra album on and we danced together; cheek to cheek. He sang along to I've got you under my skin quietly as we danced.
At the end of the night, we kissed and hugged goodnight. No snog but a proper on the lips kiss and I went to sleep in the spare room.
Yesterday, I mentioned going home and he told me there was no rush and asked me to stay for a bit longer. So I did. We gave each other a foot massage - so all very intimate but not sexual at all. In fact, over the whole weekend, there were 'looks' between us and moments of intimacy but nothing was said and no more done. And I caught him 'looking' at me a few times.
Anyway, I mentioned coming home again later in the day and he invited me to stop another night, if I wanted. We spent another lovely evening together
Quieter than the previous night. Sitting very close to each other on the sofa, occasional hand on the knee etc. He made a few comments that I wasn't sure were supposed to he flirty or not so I ignored them! 🙄
We were both tired and the evening was marred somewhat by a conversation with his family about their christmas plans being ruined by the new rules and he was a bit agitated. He apologised that it hadn't been the evening he'd envisaged us having. At one point i rested my head on his shoulder and he put his arm around me. We stayed with my head on his chest for an hour maybe and I fell asleep on him. He woke me to go to bed. I sensed a few pauses and moments of hesitation where I wasn't sure if he wanted to do or say something but had thought better of it before we went to bed. Again, we hugged and kissed goodnight and I went to sleep in the spare room.
He told me he'd had a really lovely couple of nights with me, had really enjoyed it and it had been a lot of fun. I agreed.
We were very close. There were several moments of intimacy but no suggestion of sex.
My feeling is that if he had been looking for a hook up, he would have made a move. It felt more like a slow and respectful 'wooing' but I'm not sure if I'm reading too much into it!
Everything as fine this morning and I left his at midday as he had somewhere to go. Again we hugged and kissed goodbye and he repeated that he'd had a lovely weekend.
How would you interpret it?