Keep snapping at boyfriend and feel guilty?

[ChloeR12]

I'm 12 weeks pregnant. Getting married next month (hopefully if we don't get locked down again!) this is my first child so I'm mega stressed. Partner is in the army so having to move away when the baby is born. I'm just so stressed at the moment and I keep snapping at my partner. It's making me feel so so bad...

I'm starting to think how the hell can he love me when I snap at him so much? My confidence has gone right down because right don't understand how he can actually want to be with me when my moods are like this etc... and all I do is keep explaining to him why I'm snapping etc because I'm so paranoid that I'm being mean.

Ahhh I need some advice please I feel awful right now!

Fear and anxiety can come out as anger. You can get prenatal depression/anxiety too. Have you tried talking to him about how you're feeling? I don't mean in the context of I'm feeling x that's why I'm snapping, but actually sitting down and discussing what's going on and how you're feeling. What do you think might help you? Do you have a good gp you could talk to or a pregnancy/parenting support line you can ring? I don't know about UK if that's where you are. Where I live the same organisation that provides support with postnatal depression provides support for prenatal depression.

You need to start reaching out until you find the support you need. It's not OK to be taking this out on him, but you know that. I'd think he is there because he loves you, because he knows that this isn't who you are and he's hoping it will pass. The best thing you can do right now is show him you're seeking support and are doing everything you can to stop taking it out on him.

Could it be pregnancy hormones OP? Sounds very tough that he's not going to be around for the baby. Part of the reason why I could never date someone in the military. Do you have family you can live with, who can provide support and/or company?

@LilyWater no one! We'll be living together so won't be alone unless he's on tour. But yes I think it is just hormones!:(