Ex and Social Media

[WynterRose]

Me and my ex were together just under a year. He broke up with me in 2017 saying he no longer had feelings for me. I was devastated. We were in touch on and off after that, usually him making out he missed 'us' but making no real effort to get me back. It was all talk. Then a year after that, he was back in contact again and this time invited me to his town to talk things over and possibly think about rekindling what we once had. He said he missed me and regretted breaking up.

I was sceptical, but as I'd been head over heels and was still heartbroken, I really wanted to believe it would work out. We never did get back together, as after meeting up, he never got in contact again, until I did days later and we had a argument when he told me he wanted to stay single. Within these days, I was seeing evidence he was seeing somebody else, and this was confirmed a few months later. I was heartbroken all over again. Sent a few angry messages which went ignored.

I'm healed now and realise all along after the breakup, he should never have given me false hope. We have been no contact for over 2 years. He seemed head over heels for the new girl.

The other day, out of the blue, he has sent me a friend request on facebook. I'm unsure if he is still with the 'new' girl. I thought that surely if he really wanted to chat, he would message me, not just send a friend request. It almost feels like he was testing the waters to see if i'd message him? If i'd take the bait to boost his ego?

I decided to just delete the request. And had nothing else since. He isn't blocked so if he was serious about apologising for how awfully things ended for me or anything, he could just message me. But he hasn't.

Now I'm wondering if this is an attempt to play with my head again or if he is adding me because he believes I should be over things by now and ok with being friends. (I'm not for the record)
I kind of find it cheeky and I'm verging on offended that after all this time and the hurt he knows he caused me he thinks he can casually add me.

Has anyone had similar and what are your thoughts?

Sorry if my reply is short and blunt!

Honestly seems like he feels whenever he's bored or missing that attention he can just get if easily from you? What a nob...

Maybe you're too nice? Idk. He obviating craves something from you...

But then again - maybe he is just a complete wanker and that's literally it. Lol.

Glad you're over him. Whoever you meet next, let them match your effort - if they don't, there's no point x

OP, he sounds like he isn't even sorry for messing with your head in the first place. Don't give him the time of day. Like you say, if he wanted to message you he could do. I doubt there is anything he could say now that would want to hear anyway. Ignore him,he will only try to draw you back in. Block if needs be.

He’s seeing if he still has access to you.
You absolutely did the right thing to delete his request.

Block this idiot. He's nothing but a mindfucker. He gets off on keeping you on his pathetic hook.

I can't believe after all this time that he is still seeking attention from me for an ego boost! Its makes me feel so mad after all I went through.

Are people really so self centred and nasty?

Are people really so self centred and nasty?

Of course some people are. Human beings are all different and not programmed to behave in a specific way.

I think there's an element of inexperience and naivety on your part for thinking that and for entertaining his pointless keeping in touch back then, after he ended it.

He couldn't even be bothered to come to your town to talk about it....he made such little effort and from what you've said , it sounds like you were certainly more invested in the relationship than he was....a real imbalance.

He's just a common garden fuck boy. Never respond to any communication from him again.

I would say it’s likely that he was having a look at your profile and hit the friend request button by mistake.

My DP once had a friend request from eXH’s DP. I am 100% certain she was spying on his profile (there’s nothing to see on it anyway) and inadvertently hit the friend request button. There is 0 reason why she would suddenly have wanted him on her friend list

@hadesinahalfahell

He's just a common garden fuck boy. Never respond to any communication from him again.

Hear hear 👏🏻