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I can’t do this

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Misshoney65439 · 19/12/2020 19:15

Had plans for a big family Xmas onviously now curtailed. Was planning to travel back to family home this evening to bubble with parents and siblings so just immediate family. The key issue is that closest sibling I actually live with on a day to day basis and is absolutely vile to me. A bully really. Tells me I am shit, I am undeserving, always a snide word. I cannot take two weeks of this at christmas in a small house trying to work from home on the side. They couldn’t give two shits whether or not I join. The options are either I stay by myself (houseshare situation) or I go to family Christmas. Please help. I have sought therapy for this btw which they have refused to go to, I have done everything, I am close to moving out. The party line from parents etc is “why can’t you just get on” - I try, i am civil and kind but cannot take it. Obviously I will be moving out but pandemic etc has put a halt to it.

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cherrypie790 · 19/12/2020 19:17

Don't put yourself through it. What's the point when you know that you're not going to enjoy it?

My sister has been vile to me throughout our entire lives, and our Mum has never ever once intervened.

Going no contact was the best decision I ever made.

Alys20 · 19/12/2020 19:40

Message to bullying sibling: "you are free to speak to whoever you like in that way, but you will no longer do it to me". Fuck them, enjoy your Xmas. Xx

Footle · 19/12/2020 19:45

You shouldn't go to counselling with a person who abuses you. Try again , on your own this time. You can't change their behaviour.

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