husband cheated after 4 months of marriage.

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Basically just this.

Had a gut feeling something wasn’t right because all last week he was suddenly taking his phone to the bathroom and it was always with him.

Checked his WhatsApp yesterday and saw sexual messages with this woman. Apparently he bumped into her on Saturday. She is an old college friend. He says she text him on Friday and that’s the only day this happened. They exchanged numbers on Saturday too apparently. He says nothing physical has happened.

I was too emotional and a wreck to scroll up to read how far the messages go. I didn’t get past the last two messages.

She is now blocked and deleted.

My head is a mess.

I just want my hand held. I moved 200 miles to be with him when we got married. I have no friends here and no family.

Absolutely go back to your friends a scroll them why you left him. You do not have to protect him and hurt yourself in tbe process.

And tell* them

Please listen to all these posts. He has shown you who he is. This is heartbreaking for you but you will get over it and will be glad you left. Have you told anyone? Can you go home?

And hope his next shit is a hedgehog. Yes. Furthermore: May all the hairs on his cheating arse turn into drumsticks and beat the shit out of him.

I'm so sorry, OP. But I'm also glad that you found out before you invested too many years with this loser and became financially enmeshed. Please give yourself permission to feel horrible for a while, because bad things do happen to good people who are not to blame, and it really sucks. When the holiday period is over and the lawyers are back at work, you can have your case ready to present.

You say you moved 200 miles -- do you have a job in your new town?

Holding your hand from Australia.

Go now, you're still free, upi dont have kids. Dont sign up for misery and saddle yourself to him for life by having kids with him. Go home, be happy, find someone who respects you.

OP, go. My ex husband did this to me, and my biggest regret was continuing with the marriage which limped along for another few months until he did it again. As well as feeling heartbroken, I was preoccupied with looking stupid to everyone so soon after getting married/doing everything that I could to save the marriage so soon into married life. I wish I had realised then that those things didn't matter.

Leave. I know it's painful right now but in a years time you will be over it and will have moved on. If you stay you will only be prolonging the inevitable. He will do it again. His moral compass is clearly completely skewed.

Another one whose ex did this - he then did it twice more, each time trying to hide it a bit better

He’s shown his true nature I’m afraid.

After 4 months of marriage thats shocking. Go back home to your family. If you give him another chance he will do it again because you have accepted his behaviour is ok. It is not worth wasting your time on him. How devastating - but you will get over it. Be kind to yourself.

I know it is incredibly hard when you're just married and you have an idea of how you were planning your life to go, but unless you are CERTAIN, 100% certain you could let this go out of your head for the rest of your lives and regain full trust, just leave.

Prior to getting married I had a couple of similar instances with my then boyfriend, it caused issues for years, I couldn't fully let it go. We eventually got engaged and a friend sat me down and said "you either need to leave, or fully put it all in the past and never bring it up again". I decided to stay but it slowly it ate away at me and our relationship, we had two kids and are now divorced with a 5 and 3 year old. I just wish I left when I had the instinct to prior to getting married. I obviously then wouldn't have my wonderful children, but it is difficult and far from ideal.

GO HOME

I have been in exactly the same situation as you op. I found out my dh (now exdh) was having an emotional affair after 5 months of marriage. I decided to give my marriage another chance as he seemed remorseful and we had an 18 month old dd. I managed to limp along for a further 3 years. But my marriage was ruined. I couldn't celebrate my wedding anniversary, Valentine's Day was ruined and there were triggers everywhere, I didn't trust him and I resented him for what he'd done.

I found out 3 years later that he'd actually had sex with her twice, double whammy for me. Not only had he lied to me about the relationship with her after I found out, but he'd also lied to me about it being physical for 3 years!

My advice is don't believe what he says the relationship entailed, chances are he's only admitting to what you already know.

Secondly, cut your losses, don't waste any more time on him, move home, tell everyone exactly what's happened, don't protect him, protect yourself. You deserve better