How do you cope if you're NC with your child's other parent?

[Pebbledashery]

How do you coparent? Is it impossible??? My ex is violent and abusive and currently going through the Family court. There will be no feasible way in the future for us to ever be in contact. Fearing my DDs whole life will be dealt with by solicitors and court :( he's only got 1 hour of supervised visitation at present but just thinking long term if he's going to be in our lives.

I stopped having any contact with exh when youngest dc was 11 (after 8 years of grief ) Then at 12 dc went nc with him... Bliss.

I have a Court order that covers most arrangements and a non-molestation order as extra protection. We know when contact is meant to be so unless I need to change arrangements due to illness or similar, there's no reason for me to need to speak to him.

If contact arrangements are laid out in a court order, stick to them meticulously.
Disengage.
Buy a second cheap phone and only give him that number. Keep it switched off when DD is with you.
Use it to text significant info only e.g DDs school place has been confirmed.
DDs test results are clear etc

Establish very clear ground rules and stick to them. And most importantly for your DD, talk about him in neutral terms e,g Daddy is picking you up from school today and he’s looking forward to seeing you.
It is possible if you can keep emotions in check. Don’t let him dictate to you.
Good luck.

I guess it'll be a lot of using of a note book too. Just awful isn't it. Parallel parenting.

How old is your DD?