Relationship

[Charl222]

Hi, I’ve just joined this group as wanting some advice/someone to speak to.

Background info - I have been with my partner 7 years, I’m 23 he’s 29. We have a 5 year old daughter and are engaged, getting married next year.

So tonight my partner went out with some friends he works with (we are in tier 1) and they went back to the houses they are converting for a poker night, as the rest of the guys live there. Then out of the blue some random girl messages me saying that my partner has been asking her to go round so they can have sex. She sent me screenshots of their snapchat convos, however his user name was different. I sent him the screen shots and asked what was going on. He denied it all then came home. As soon as he got home he started getting defensive asking why I didn’t believe him etc, saying he would never cheat on me (he did at the start of the relationship). He was texting the girl who sent me the screenshots and she told him if he can’t be truthful she will ruin his life.

I’m not sure what to believe - his username was different but why would she randomly send me screenshots, including the address where he was, who he was with, and his back details. It all doesn’t add up. Any advice would be appreciated.

Thank you x

He's got a second Snapchat account and he's cheating. Sorry but the most obvious answer is usually true.

Hi there,

I really feel for you. Cheating is the worst thing out there and it really affects you in so many ways.

I do believe that perhaps he has a second account. I don't know why else the girl would take her time to send this to you. Unless she has some very strange personal vendetta.

I would sit down with him and have a v serious talk about being honest. And then, if you're still concerned I would be the brave woman and ask to have a coffee with the girl who sent you the screenshots to get her side completely and then get to the bottom of it. If she is serious, and genuinely wants to help another woman out she will give you this time. If not- perhaps it's her own issue.

All the best,
Keep your head up.

So I couldn’t sleep at all - I have been digging deeper on Facebook, I have found out that the girl who sent the messages, has been using fake baby scans to pretend she is pregnant with peoples baby’s to get money!! Oh I don’t know what to believe now!!🙈 it’s all so strange!!

Omg that’s wild!

Now I would be hesitant to believe what she’s saying- she may be trying to con you.

So bad.

Still sit down and chat with your man and lay it all out. Trust your gut.

Can you get a hold of his phone? If so search for snapchat in the apps. If there's two then there's your answer.

Was the snap username similar to his?

No it wasn’t anything like his username something completely different! He usually uses similar user names football relating for everything but this was different.

Yes I agree with this!