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Alone at Christmas

14 replies

Justa47 · 18/12/2020 09:32

Anyone else alone at Christmas?

Brothers family in. 3 bubble
Old parents want to stay in own.
Sister cancelled Christmas due to her house being flooded.

What will you do?

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LostVoiceInTheCrowd · 18/12/2020 09:35

Yep, me!

I'm really looking forward to it!

LostVoiceInTheCrowd · 18/12/2020 09:35

I'm going to stay in my pjs, watch films, eat crap... I can't wait.

SweatyBetty20 · 18/12/2020 09:44

I'm in a new relationship but it's his turn with his kids, who don't know about me yet. Parents dead, and the people I usually spend time with on Xmas Day are three families of relatives - my aunt and uncle and their daughters families, so I can't go there as I'll make it more than three households. Funny, the year I meet someone after being single for 10 years, is the year that I'll be spending Xmas Day on my own.

I'm going to walk to the cemetery to take some flowers to my mum and dad and have a tidy up and a good cry, come home, have a lovely non-xmas lunch, read all day, a bit of a buffet tea, and have a long bath with a Jo Malone candle, and an early night. Probably no TV as that will make me miserable, but I should be fine without. From Boxing Day onwards I'm going to get in the car and go and explore a bit - I've been in Tier 3 (or it's predecessor) since the beginning of July and I've not been further than 5 miles from my house. I feel like I'm suffocating, so I'm going to go and spread my wings somewhere else. If you can bypass the travel tier system if you're meeting up with a bubble then in my mind you can bypass the travel tier system if you don't have a bubble. I'm going to find a beach and walk on it - I am craving sea air like you wouldn't believe.

Once 27th is past, I'm going to Marie Kondo the shite out of my house and start the new year with a clean, clear, tidy, uncluttered house. And a lot of trips to the tip.

ALittleBitConfused1 · 18/12/2020 10:03

I am this year and normally it wouldn't be an issue, I've spent Christmas on my own a couple of times over the years, when my son was younger and with his dad for the day I've worked too.
But this year I'm struggling with the idea, I live alone am single and have been wfh since March. I'm very lucky in that I'm v close to my sister and have a great few close friends so as and when rules have changed I have had meet ups with them but I do feel so very isolated now. The thought of Christmas day alone after a year of mainly being at home on my own 24/7 for 9 months I am in no way looking forward to it.
I bought my Christmas dinner food yesterday and felt very sad at the thought of it.
I'm someone who craves personal space and time on my own usually, it just feel so very different this year and tbh the thought of going into another lockdown in January feels me with dread.
So I think I'll sleep for the day, maybe go for a walk. I'll cook dinner then have an early night, my plan is to try and pretend it's just another winter Sunday.

Justa47 · 18/12/2020 10:16

Sounds fab

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madcatladyforever · 18/12/2020 12:57

I'm alone, with my cat.
I love Christmas alone, its my favourite kind of Christmas.
I shower put on fresh PJs and eat and watch crap tv all day. I usually get some new books in too. Its just so wonderful getting 4 whole days to myself off my stressful job.

Justa47 · 18/12/2020 13:19

Lovely

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HaudMaDug · 18/12/2020 13:45

Solo Christmas (and the other 364 days of the year) has been the routine for a long time.
Only difference for Christmas is there is even less I want to watch on TV.
I do break from my usual rigid routine on the day by having an extra hour or so in bed (if the dog lets me) then get the dog walk out of the way and have brunch on return, light a fire to cuddle up with the dog in the snug with the curtains shut for the rest of the day.
Usually have steak for my meal but this year I've changed my mind and ordered a selection of cheeses and cooked meats and crackers so that I don't have to cook. Will set up the cheesy feast on the coffee table (usually the snug is out of bounds for food) and pour myself a nice Moscow Mule now that my fab vodka has arrived from Chase. Looking forward to it now as I haven't had an alcoholic drink for years.

Wishing all you a lovely Christmas and to all the solo fliers a fab time doing what ever the hell you like. 🧀🍾

ginislife · 18/12/2020 14:11

Me ! Can't wait. I've tried for 10 years to stay home alone and people just won't let you as they think it's wrong so this year I have the perfect excuse. I'm going to M&S food shop and eat what I like when I like, watch what I like on the tv and drink what I like. FS is going to his mums but looking likely he may come home on boxing day now.

Misty9 · 18/12/2020 17:18

I'm sort of alone as dc are with their dad and coming to me Xmas afternoon until boxing day. I'm feeling a bit demotivated to buy nice food etc just for me, but I'll do a walk in my favourite nature reserve, drink mulled wine, listen to the radio and watch some films I think. Tbh it just feels like any other winter's weekend day in some ways...

Flowers and (mulled) Wine for those struggling this year

Swaning · 18/12/2020 17:30

I regularly spend xmas day alone and quite enjoy it.

I have the option to pop to family but really, i enjoy the alone time.
Eat and watch what i want.

My DP goes to his mothers for the day / night and I chill and listen to podcasts in tje bath and scoff treats infront of the tv.

I used to feel sad about it, but it really is just another day.

I actually like going for a drive around lunch time as the roads are usually deserted and its fun to get out for some air.

Enjoy yourselves all, see the positives, and make the most of the peaceful day.

Frenchdressing · 18/12/2020 17:33

Solo Xmas sounds fab but then I’m married and surrounded by kids and dogs most of the time. I expect if I lived alone, an alone Xmas might not appeal So much

My friend is alone at Xmas this year so is volunteering at a homeless place.

Justa47 · 19/12/2020 05:00

That’s great she is volunteering

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BatshitCrazyWoman · 19/12/2020 10:48

I am. Not looking forward to it as normally I'd have seeing my adult children after Christmas to look forward to but that's not happening this year. I've been in my living room since March so can't say I'm looking forward to it. I have three family members and two of them are in care homes!

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