Hi it’s my first post for many years!
I’ve been with my boyfriend for just over a year. I’m late 40s he is 53. We both have grown up children. Long distance from each other but so far, even with lockdown, it is going well. Both divorced. He was then whether someone for around 3 years. He is my first partner since splitting with husband nearly 5 years ago (apart from a handful of dates). He’s a blokes bloke, loves football, his mates etc. He treats me well, generous thoughtful. We have fun together. But (you knew there’d be a but!) so brutally honest sometimes and don’t think he realises that it can hurt my feelings and honestly, if I were to tell him he would most likely say Oh don’t be a snowflake... for example earlier today chatting on the phone he says oh I started watching Game of Thrones again last night, it caught my eye well it was probably Emilia’s tits that caught my eye hahaha so I watched a couple of episodes. I said Nice, thanks for that haha (I said it half laughing but felt instantly annoyed/hurt?) I made sure the call ended soon after... he probably hasn’t a clue that I felt upset. But he’ll say other things occasionally too, chatting at mine when he was here few weekends ago, talking about people from school “I mean back then she was a pretty girl, I mean a really pretty girl”
- I don’t know if he can read my feelings from my face, but you know when you think Ok, I get it, but shut up?!
Am I making a mountain out of a molehill? Do I need to stop being a snowflake? Does he have insecurities so he puts a bit of a front on? Or is he an insensitive twat?!