So you may have seen my post ‘separated from partner’ a few weeks ago. I was ok at first, knew id done the right thing and I was good. However, its been a month now and since then me and my ex have barely spoke, only about our son and thats it and hes been over to puck son up for his days with him...
All the while im still watching his whatsapp usage and overthinking everything. I split from him over his secrecy and general acruons towards me, but I am a very paranoid person and have no trust in no one. I thought he was messaging a girl he met at work, however he says hes not and now hes took leave from work till after christmas and is staying closer to me and our son with his mum, he works a couple hours away so now im thinking there was nothing going in with that girl.
But now theres someone else on the scene, a girl he met a couple years ago and again I thought he liked her but nothing happened but now hes single and so is she they have spent some time together, they are both apart of a football team, shes in the ladies team. She has two children similar age to our son and my ex said he arranged a play date with her kids so our son has someone to play with.
Hes said there is nothing going on.
Intold him I dont mind if there is anything going on but please dont introduce our son to anyone yet as its too soon. He said he understood and wouldnt do that.
Now come today. He picked our son up to take him swimming and I asked ih he needed the car seat. He said well ive got one in the car but Im taking it back today. I asked whos and he said A (the new girl on the scene) and he said ‘ no theres nothing going on before you go there’ and I said well hes free to do what he likes.
When he dropped son off later on I asked about christmas. Initially when Infirsl split from him I said he could spend it with us but since then with all thats been going on and thought he might not want to. He said he doesnt knownwhat he wants to do. Insaid be honest are you seeing this girl, he said no, I said do you want to?
I dont know, he said
I asked if he wanted us to try again, again he said I dont know.
Then we left it at that.
I texted him after to see if he wanted to stay iver christmas evenas the kids wake up super early and they wont want to wait for him to arrivento open presents. No reply.
I gave it a while to let him respong but he didnt, even though he had read the message and been online most of the evening. I finally said forget about what I said, your silence says everyrhing, I guess you just want to move on and forget about us. He said he wasnt silent. I said well I should have taken tour answer from the ‘i dont know’! And again he hasent responded.
In the very back of my mind I know I only want to get back with him for the sake of our son, for selfish reasons really, I feel im missing outnon parts of his life and I feel sorry for him that he's from a ‘broken home’
My minds a mess!