OLD - have you ever swiped right for a younger guy?

[TartanLassie]

Online there are so many young guys looking for the older woman. A MILF.

I see them, roll my eyes and swipe left. But one today made look a bit longer and I almost swiped right. Almost. 20 years younger 🙄

Made me wonder if anyone has ever met anyone much younger online and how did it pan out?

Not talking about anyone who had met their much younger partner the "normal" way ... just online.

I met my ex online. He's 7 years younger than me, and only 13 years older than my eldest. That's not a massive age gap though.

But he's an ex so clearly it didn't work out (it lasted 2.5 years though.)

Sorry it didn't work out. :(

Although I don't think 7 years is much, well I'm in my 50's and I'm dating guys 7 years younger. Suppose it would be different if you're in your 20s.

But 20 or 30 Years younger!! 🙀

My friend is in her late 50s now and four or so years back went through a spell of wanting no strings sex after a serious break-up. She met LOADS of much much younger guys on Tinder. None of them turned into a relationship - but then she wasn’t looking for that. She appears in to look back on it all quite fondly, tho says she is looking for a guy closer to her own age for an LTR now. And finding that much harder to find.

I am the other way round, I generally prefer older guys and swiped quite a few who were almost 20 years older (I set my profile only two years below my own age, but up to twenty years or so above). There were some nice fellas and I had some nice chats with them. The one I ended up meeting (and am still with now) is only two years older though, and actually I am finding that works really well.

Before I met my DH I dated a couple of younger guys. Not massively younger, think the youngest was 3 years younger than me. I was in my early 20s at the time so the age difference was noticeable and I didn’t like them very much.

I’m a college tutor now so often teach men in the early 20s, there’s nothing appealing about any of them at all!

Yes, not 'swiped' but responded to an message.
Four years ago I was OLD, a site that had to be paid for. I met around six men who on paper would have been ideal for me, similar age, interests etc. But they bored me and seemed 'old', both in their outlooks and appearance.
But the one that I 'clicked' with was 21 years younger than me (I'm 54). After much deliberation (on my part) we met and the attraction was amazing. Understandably the age difference concerned me (not him much at all) and I struggled with this for a while. But four years later and now living together this is easily the best relationship of my life. He's very mature and grounded whereas I'm more impulsive. We work well as a team and adore each other. The age difference is not overly obvious in appearance and I'm confident enough now that if it does in the future I'll deal with it. He's proud to be with me and me him.
So yes, it can work :)

I have a FWB I met via a dating app, who's 11 years younger than me, and who I've now been seeing for over a year. That said, I think it only works because it's FWB. I think he'd be terrible in an actual relationship!

@TartanLassie

Sorry it didn't work out. :(

Although I don't think 7 years is much, well I'm in my 50's and I'm dating guys 7 years younger. Suppose it would be different if you're in your 20s.

But 20 or 30 Years younger!! 🙀

Thanks. I guess some things just aren't meant to be. I agree 7 years isn't massive, but feels bigger the younger you are. I was early 30s vs his mid 20s. Dating someone 20 years younger would be illegal

Ooooo @Lionsizetresses now that's interesting!!

At 21 years younger, he'd be younger than my son!

I'm same age as you, and the old geezers online just don't do it for me. After 47 they seem to just let themselves go.

So what about the future. Does he have kids already? Does it worry you that when you're in your 7's hell still only be in his 59s? Or do you not look that far ahead!! Do you not feel a wee bit insecure at all? So many questions!

But the main one is .... why does he fancy older women? Does he have some sort of mummy complex?

Maybe I should just swipe right to one of them!!

It works for Joan Collins and Percy

I'm not sure I could date 20 years younger, what would my son say 😂
I was so surprised when I went online dating to find young men attracted to me at 39 and quite a few in their 20's wanting to date me, very flattered but not for me, however my current guy is 8 years younger and to be honest there is quite a maturity difference with even with that.

Dated someone 14 years younger than me when I was early 40's. After a while his immaturity annoyed me immensely

TartanLassie

I have grown up children and he doesn't want children. I don't think he has a mummy complex! Do I feel insecure? Of course! But he makes me feel confident and loved and we are equals in our relationship, he's very supportive and sensible, but fun at the same time. I do consider what will happen when we get older but he assures me it's me he loves even when I get older, as he points out he will be getting older too.

I am confident in my looks and take care of myself, keeping fit etc, not out of pressure but simply because that's who I am. He blends in with my friends and vice versa. It's actually quite refreshing.

You should try it. Compared to men my own age he's a breath of fresh air and I feel happy and loved. When I asked him why he fancied me because I'm so much older he said it was because I am beautiful and the nicest person he's ever met (yeah, yeah, flattery goes a long way!).

All his family have also been totally accepting of me and say they are pleased he's met me because I've made him happy.

I find that age difference really icky. I wonder how people even consider dating someone so much younger. I feel maternal towards them. See lots of old geezers on tik tok looking idiotic with girlfriends young enough to be their daughters.

I have a friend who met her late husband when she was young (his children weren't much younger in age) got married and even though at the time she loved him, it now turns her stomach (,and there were issues in their marriage).

Maybe I’m a negative Nancy but I think any age difference of over 10 years, never works for very long. Unfortunately, the way society is it’s harder for a woman to date so much younger. Although, I do think massive age gaps are odd both ways.

Eventually, the woman will get older and less youthful etc which doesn’t make anyone less attractive but to a younger man surrounded by women nearer his age it might.

I’d be very surprised if a 20 year gap wasn’t immediately obvious !

People change their minds about kids etc

Well look at the great Babs Windsor (who sadly passed away this week with her adoring husband of many years by her side). She was 55 when they met, he was 28. It's about individuals I think. When it works, it works. Age becomes just a number when you love someone.

I dabbled in the younger man market in between lockdowns. Just for fun (sex) though. I'm 46 and slept with a 29yr old and 31yr old Both were very nice and hot and it was massively flattering. I had lots of other interest too.
Then I stupidly had a fling with a previous tinder fling who was a twat last time and a twat this time. He was 57 and ghosted me (i.e. like last time). So age is no guarantee of maturity...
I'll be re-exploring the younger man thing once the pubs are open again and it's easy to meet guys for a drink.
Men my age are so messed up. The last guy I arranged to meet cancelled on the day as he wasn't "ready to date". Why join a dating app and arrange a date then dickhead?!

I dabbled in the younger man market in between lockdowns. Just for fun (sex) though

^^

Fair play

Dunno why but this made me giggle

My boyfriend is 11 years younger than me, I don't meet him online though.

We started as FWB but 6 years later he's still here Personality wise he's very grounded and patient, I'm probably the immature one if anything!

When i did have my tinder phase all the guys I met were around 10 years younger, that just how it worked out. Men my age and older seemed so boring and full of baggage, younger men are still bright eyed and bushy tailed, they haven't been beaten down by life yet!

I'd still stick to the half your age plus 7 rule, but if older men can date younger women as standard then why shouldn't we?

Hmmmm I'm reassessing my "don't date anyone younger than my son policy"

I can understand meeting someone in a pub or work for example, and the chemistry just being overwhelming so no hoots given about age.

But I'm slightly dubious of the young men who are actively online looking for older women. That to me is very different. I assumed they were just looking for sex with a MILF before carrying on with their life. A rite of passage almost.

However @Lionsizetresses story is reassuring, although that's just one person.

Never heard the half age plus 7 "rule"
Haha. That makes it exactly my son's age!

Hmmmmmm ......

When I did tinder, I swiped right for a few men, thinking they looked nice and normal. I then thought, do I really think youd fit into my life? And unfollowed most of them. But when it came to my now fiance, who was 36 to my 42 then, I just thought, hmm if he asked me out, I'd love to go and have a cuddle with him!!! 6.5 years age difference... weve now been together for 3 years and he is solid as a rock, not shallow and does go for slightly older women. There are odd times I feel he has less experience than I do, for example he works really hard and sometimes says, wow if I carry on like this, I'll earn £x at the end of the year. Me, I'm thinking, it seldom comes off like that tho does it? Sure enough.

I'm in my early 40s and had a lovely time with a 26 yr old for a few months. It was just sex and dating but it was fun. He was strong and interesting and funny and good in bed.

It might help that I don't have children though so it didn't feel icky. All my friends children and still under 10ish.

I'm chatting to someone who is 15 years younger than me. I'm 50 and he is 35. It wasn't a swipe situation though, it's a friend of a friend. We are still just at chat stage, I am not sure how I feel about meeting up.

My best friend however, her divorce is going though, taking forever due to lockdown, but has been having a good old time with a 29 year old, she is 47. Says it's the best sex she's ever had so is of course encouraging me to meet up with the one I'm chatting to. She messaged me the other day, just said Stamina 😁

😂.

I met my partner online, he was just 50 and I was 56, so not a huge age gap but an important one at this age as men my age or slightly older were basically running out of steam! He has hair and an extraordinary sex drive and we get on like a house on fire. No difference in maturity, and he still gets all my cultural references re 1970s children’s programmes, music etc.

He says he’s never regarded age as a thing and I know he’s slept with women much older than me and much younger. He reckons women in their 50s are very sexy because of their confidence and independence, plus no risk of pregnancy is a massive aphrodisiac. I’m sure he doesn’t have a mummy complex. With some much younger men when I was on OLD, I suspected (a) a dare (grab a granny) and (b) inadequacy, in that they thought I would be desperate, grateful and unjudging. Lol.

How things will pan out in the future? Who knows. I may need to trade him in for a younger model at some point 😂.