It has become increasingly obvious to me that my mother is incredibly bitter regarding my child having a relationship with her dad's family.
There is absolutely no reason for this other than my DM being an incredibly jealous person (she would deny this, I think she's genuinely blind to it). Any time I mention any of DH family in regards to DD she's makes very bitter and often subtly nasty comments. The first time my DD slept over with one of my inlaw's I saw DM the next day and mentioned it to her, within an hour she had started an argument over nothing and didn't speak to me for over a week. It was blatent that was the real reason.
Also when DD was born (she's 3 now) we lived closer to DH family, when looking to buy a new house about a year later DM convinced me that closer to her would be best so she could help with childcare (I had virtually no childcare from DH family due to work schedules). I now see she was just saying this to get me to move to her with no real intents on providing childcare, so she could have her granddaughter closer to her (more specifically further way from DH family!). Also relevant that when we lived nearer DH family she NEVER made the 1hr10ish round trip to visit us, and made it clear she wouldn't be, I went to her every week including when DD was born and I was stitched up to the high heavens! I now wish so much I had stayed where I was.
I know it sounds a bit like I'm making something out of nothing but I'm trying to summarise as much as possible and not be too outing. But has anyone else been in a similar position and can offer any advice?