What would you do about this?

[UsualCrowd]

What would you do if the mother of an ex friend of your daughter's followed her around a supermarket and shouted at her in public?

I feel it was very inappropriate of her to do so and borders on harassment.

My daughter is now very nervous about the situation happening again.

There is a long backstory.

@Graphista

No it doesn't *@KatherineJaneway* NOTHING justifies an adult approaching a child and intimidating them in this way. Even IF the ops daughter were a bully or unpleasant in any way the way the former friend's mother should have dealt with that ISN'T to bully and intimidate a child

agreed...

contact the Police before the supermarket deletes/records over the CCTV 🌺

Thanks. I'm not going to speak to the police on this occasion but I am going to message the other mum his weekend and say that my daughter was quite distressed after being confronted by her and is worried about it happening again and that any attempt by her to speak with them again or any attempt at direct communication from her daughter, or indirect contact in the form of passive aggressive comments on the Instagram page they all follow, or setting up of multiple accounts to try and engage with her will be seen as harassment and I will be contacting the police.

It was in the local supermarket and the girls were in a completely different aisle by the time she found them - so not a small shop. The girls started to walk away when they saw the other girl and her mum approaching and she shouted down the aisle, "Come back, I'm talking to you!" before catching them up and telling them off and saying her daughter had just wanted to talk to them etc etc. They hadn't even seen the ex friend before she spoke to them and my daughter has said a few times that she didnt even realise it was her when she first approached them from behind and spoke to them - it took a few seconds for it to register. They said they didn't want to talk to her and walked away. So it wasn't any kind of intervention at all.

The other girl and her mum were telling them to stop 'spamming' the ex friend. I don't think either of them understand what that means because it followed my daughter sending single word responses to messages she had been sent first and then asking ex friend to stop because she didnt want to be friends with her. I think they understand spamming to be someone saying something the other person doesn't want to hear. Maybe they meant 'trolling' but they werent doing that either!

I would like to contact the other girl's school and make them aware but not entirely sure its appropriate given that it's a different school. It won't come as a surprise because there have been issues with this girl generally and with her peers. But i suppose from a safeguarding perspective it might be useful.

The other mum's version of events corroborated my daughter and his friends version with the exception that the ex friend told her mum my daughter and her friend had told her to piss off. It was the interpretation and sense of necessity of it that differed.

Firstly, I know my daughter well enough to know that she'd have admitted it if she had said that 🙄 and secondly, if people were in the wrong for telling someone else to piss off then an awful lot of people would be in trouble all the time!

I think an official cease and desist from a solicitor addressed to mum and daughter not out of order

That's a good idea actually.

Although I dont really want to be spending money on it!

I might still message and say I'll be seeking legal advice if it happens again.