As I've read some of your posts and your situation sounded very similar to what i'm going through now, I'm starting up so many threads at the moment coz I'm in turmoil and thanks to everyone putting up with me. I'm expecting dh to call today about seeing dd and part of me is dreading it. I can't accept that our marriage is over but if he won't even contemplate relate what do I do, again sorry for banging on about this