Single mumsnetters- What dating sites are you on?

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Just curious what dating sites ppl are on as I'm looking for new ones to join after xmas. For context I'm 41 yr old female.At the moment I'm on match which is dire and facebook dating which is slightly better.I know they are all pretty crap just wonderd if anyone has any recommendations .

Sadly they're all dire and have the same people on them!!

Don't pay for a site eg March.com

Tinder is good as you only chat if you match, unlike plenty fo fish (POF) where you'll be inundated with messages from all sorts!!

Good luck and take it all with a HUGE pinch of salt!

Oh I agree with match made the mistake of signing up for six months thankfully my subscription ends in feb!.

I don't use dating apps as I have heard some much bad stuff about them. There is an OLD dating thread on mumsnet that might help you. I was happily single and never really give much thought to finding another partner. I don't especially any effort with my appearance, or flirt a lot with men when out and about doing everyday chores. However, in the past six months I have had a few men approach me and try to start conversations or ask for my number. This hasn't been encouraged in lockdown, but made me feel like I wasn't over the hill yet. Then my central heating blew up requiring extensive gas and electrical work doing in the house. Having called six engineers, only one could attend on a certain day so I asked him to call as he lives local to me. The attraction was instant when I opened the door, and we have really bonded over the course of the programme of works. I started looking forward to his appointments. He has been a total gentleman, but we have agreed the feelings are mutual. We will see where this goes. He wasn't using dating apps, I don't use dating apps...neither were looking for a date, but we both freak each other out (in a good way). I think the dating apps force you to see and potentially meet a lot of different sorts of people. This can be good on one side in that you have an available pool to pick from, but it can be bad too as it contains a pool of timewasters, players, odd jobs and people stuck in complex situations that you might reject if you met them in the community. By all means try dating apps, but proceed with caution.

Tip for match set up profile but don’t pay anything . Wait a few weeks then usually a 4.99 or similar offer comes up .
Then put more effort in that one month get some contacts more than one then cancel subscription before the month runs out or they will charge full price . Then you can arrange dates.
I recently met someone on there purely by chance .
You get the usual losers on all sites anyway so have to be quite picky and read the dating threads on here they are useful advice .
Dating is a nightmare in these covid times as well but good luck .

Ask on the dating thread they could give you a more detailed review. I am on Bumble, it is like Tinder in that you swipe and see if you match but if you match with a man the woman has to message first. If you match with a woman either of you can message first.

Paying dating sites - don't bother

Plenty of Fish (POF) - prob busiest in UK but not the best for a newbie to start with. Plus anyone can message you!

Tinder - I'm my opinion the best one. You can't be contacted unless you match. A lot of "real" people.

Bumble - exactly like tinder except the woman has to message first .... don't get the point of that at all. But whatever .... much smaller pool than Tinder, and the same people anyway!

Hinge - boring! Nobody on there and you have to like peoples' pic or some shit. Been a long time since I was on it though.

Ok Cupid - eeek my least favourite site

Anyway it also depends on where you live and your age. But for a good all rounder I'd say Tinder.

I agree with tinder
I met my now DP on there 4 years ago..
We live together and have a DD 18 months old now.
He was local ish to me but I really don't think our paths would have crossed unless without tinder.
There were some strange men in there but a lot of genuine men too!
Trust your gut and best of luck!

I tried quite a few but found Tinder and Bumble to be the best as had the most traffic. Got more chats out of PoF as you don't need to match to chat so less pressure. My friend is currently being inundated on Facebook dating but I'm dubious as to whether it's purely men after sex only. I would never pay as tried Match and it was a waste.

Agree with pp. bumble and tinder.

I'm on Tinder and Bumble, I found Tinder better. I am yet to have that allusive date yet but that may be the people I match with or that I'm really picky.

Avoid Bumble. Full of weirdos. Met my ex on there. Ended up having to report him for stalking/harassment

Not on there anymore as I met someone but I found Bumble to be best. I like the fact women have to message first so there's non of that waiting around wondering who's going to be first to message! Also tried Badoo for a while which has a good format but there's no where near the same number of men on there so it has a fairly short attention span!
Agree with others don't pay for anything the same men are on all the free ones anyway.