Relationship with mother

[ambs1994]

Did anyone's relationship with their mother get better when they moved out?

Bit of background - I'm 26 and still live at home and my mother really frustrates me. I cant really explain it but she just annoys me all the time, says the most obvious things, asks questions that I dont know the answer for. She's all about herself and never thinks to ask me how I am, hows my day etc.

I feel like I need to move out as soon as possible before our relationship gets worse.

Yes. Yes. Yes.

I love my mum to bits but she and I don’t get on well living together. I had to move back for a but after Uni and it was like being 9 again - I’m laughing at the memory of this but we’d gone halves on a Nintendo Wii for a bit of silly fun and after one argument about my forgetting to bring MY OWN washing in off the line (it had rained and got a bit wet) she threatened to ‘take that Wii back to the shop.’ I was 24 years old

Thankfully I got a job and a house sorted not long after. She is a very nice person but I did not feel comfortable living with her when she seemed unwilling to adapt to living with me as an adult, rather than me as a child.

Yes 100%.
I will never have a fantastic relationship with my mum but it's much easier now that we spend less time together. It means the time we do spend is better quality and we are less likely to annoy each other. When I'm annoyed there is then space to get away from each other, simmer down before seeing each other again.

@IRememberMySpaceBabe I do love the woman but she is so annoying. She says I'm always blunt with her but I cant help it when she says some of the things she does.
Sometimes I can't go anywhere without her asking where I'm going, who I'm with etc, like I'm a child again.
I'm still trying to save hard for a deposit for a house but when you're on a low wage its a bit difficult.

[quote ambs1994]@IRememberMySpaceBabe I do love the woman but she is so annoying. She says I'm always blunt with her but I cant help it when she says some of the things she does.
Sometimes I can't go anywhere without her asking where I'm going, who I'm with etc, like I'm a child again.
I'm still trying to save hard for a deposit for a house but when you're on a low wage its a bit difficult.[/quote]
I can totally imagine that - I ended up renting for a few years because the job I found was in a town too far to drive to daily from my mum’s house. That’s where I met my now-DH, when we moved in together we rented for a bit and then eventually bought a house just before our first baby was born. It is so hard to save though, sounds like you’re doing a great job - hopefully you’ll be able to have your own place soon!