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AIBU to be pi**ed off?

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Hushmush · 15/12/2020 18:00

Yesterday I asked my OH to answer the door to a parcel pick up that would be picked up from my house today. He works from home. He told me that would be a bad idea because he’d be too busy to answer the door to hand a parcel over. He said conference calls etc. It was already booked and so I had an email from the delivery company today to say that it hadn’t been collected because no one had answered the door. When I spoke to my OH he told me he’d gone out on an hour and a half round trip to hand over something that his mate had bought off him. He’d decided this morning that it’d be helpful to meet him half way despite his friend agreeing to come here to collect it. And so, he was too busy to open a front door to help me out but was happy to take an hour and a half to help out a friend.

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Treacletoots · 15/12/2020 18:02

What a selfish bell end. Is this one a keeper?

LittleMissLockdown · 15/12/2020 18:03

That's incredibly shitty of him! What he's basically making loud and clear is how little he respects you. Him helping out a friend is more important than helping you, no wonder you're pissed off!

AttilaTheMeerkat · 15/12/2020 18:03

Seems like you are an option rather than a priority in his life. So you are not that important to him.

I would further think about your relationship with him as a whole; is this just the latest in a long line of selfish behaviour from him?. He seems to be all sweetness and light with friends but when it comes to you its likely a different story altogether.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 15/12/2020 18:04

I'd be throwing this one back in the pond, there are better men out there.

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Hushmush · 15/12/2020 18:05

I’m always dealt the crap to be honest. I’ve put up with a lot over the years and so it’s just something else but highlights how little a priority I am. I don’t ask anything of him.

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AttilaTheMeerkat · 15/12/2020 18:14

What is keeping you with this man at all now given that you're not his number 1 priority?. A fear of being alone otherwise?.

What did you learn about relationships when you were growing up?. Did your dad treat your mum like this?.

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Hushmush · 15/12/2020 18:20

My dad treated my mum very badly yes. And yes, I’m terrified of being on my own. Not because I scared of my own company but I’m scared of losing any sort of security x

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