Ive been with my boyfriend around a year, both several years divorced with kids. We've had our challenges, not least fitting in seeing each other around our time with kids. We haven't met each others kids yet though it has been discussed.
This week he asked me if my exh knew about him and I said yes (only recently). However I know he hasn't told his ex wife about me yet. I haven't pushed it as we don't live together etc but at what stage should she know? She seems quite demanding, phones him when we're together to moan or ask for help or money (she doesn't work and is financially dependent on him). My ex phones at times too but there isn't the same dependence or drama. Their divorce seems to have been quite acrimonious and she seems to use access to the kids as a bit of a weapon.
Should I be concerned? Or just enjoy the relationship and wait until we are in a position where we would want to meet kids, possibly live together etc which may not be for a while.