Advice/opinions please before I go mad.

[Abcd14]

NC for this as would like impartial advice due to my last post.

So met a guy.. LTR.. We only see each other weekends, holidays etc..
Very much both committed.. Happy most of the time!..very in sync and I can honestly say I thought I'd settle with this guy for years to come.
However it's become apparant due to do lots of reasons becoming 1 house isn't going to happen.
I ended things a couple of days ago and am feeling absolutely heartbroken..it wasn't amicable as such but I also know he won't/can't so much to change this so will respect my decision. He has told me 'it's my decision' which I find a little unfair.

So.. Would you try and claw this back if you felt you'd made a mistake and potentially stick with weekends/holidays etc..
Or cut your losses and try and find someone else.. Who I can't see comparing for lots of reasons.

My head feels like I'm going to go mad.. Its also Christmas so I feel I've done it at the worst time possible.. Which is my own fault..im.pretty sure I can claw it back.. But I need someone to rationalise this and throw in some sense please..

It isn’t something I would want indefinitely. I would be ok for about a year but after that I would need a better plan.

It really depends on how it's making you feel. I know happy couples who live at opposite ends of the country. It can work, but you really have to be getting more joy from the situation than sadness.

You're just grieving. It will pass. You haven't "made a mistake", you're having normal emotions.

"Clawing it back" is not going to magically change the unresolvable problem that you are not compatible.

It was nice. Now it's ended. It will hurt for a while. You will feel better.

Thanks all. It makes me feel dreadful to be honest.
Eifhsg we are very compatible that's what makes this so hard

As hard as it is, you wouldn't be happy as living together is important for you.

it wasn't amicable as such but I also know he won't/can't so much to change this

Then time to move on. Which i imagine is what you were told on your previous thread. He isnt prepared to give you what you want. And life is short.

Do you already have kids? I would definitely finish a relationship if I wanted a family and it was never going to happen. But I think if I already had kids and wasn't looking to have any more then I would be ok with separate houses. That's me though - sounds like it's a deal breaker for you, which is fair enough.

You are a couple of days in - it is going to be raw . He doesn't sound very bothered . "It's your decision " Stick to your guns.

Thanks all, jen apologies I worded that wrongly.. I meant it wasn't agrred with on his part..meaning he didn't want us to split.. But neither did I, I just felt no choice.. So not wanted by both.. So sorry worded wrongly.
No children, nor is it a problem. We're easy going and fun..spoke last night.. Will see how it goes.. I think you know when is the wrong time and you're done.. Now doesn't feel like it
Thanks for the opinions and help

So he has explicitly said you both wouldn't move in together, in the future?

Depends on how long you have been together as minds can change as time goes on. But if it has been expressed he will definitely never move in with you at some point in the future, then you did the right thing as it doesn't match your future expectations.