Just looking for advice about handling a situation which has developed this year. Essentially, a few things had happened which made me wonder if DH had been or still was having an affair. They weren't trivial things, I'm not paranoid, and these things happened over a period of time. Having been married a long time I was not the sort of wife to watch his every move, etc., so it was only with the benefit of hindsight that I realised this year that some events should have raised more of a red flag than they did at the time.
I broached the subject of him having an inappropriate relationship with another woman with him on three separate occasions and each time he denied it. These conversations, however, opened up communication between us and our relationship has improved and sorted out a few niggly issues which had developed over a long marriage.
The problem is that generally he seems much happier and more content but then he seems to have some days where he seems preoccupied, withdrawn and a bit down. This has always been after he has been to work so it could simply be that he's had a bad day. This is totally unlike him though so I am wondering now if me broaching the subject did actually lead to some sort of breakup. If my suspicions are correct, the friendship would not have been a casual fling but more a long-term love affair.
I don't know what to do as ordinarily I would be a support to DH if he has problems, but I can't broach the subject again. He may be telling the truth, although my gut tells me he has lied to me because he doesn't want us to split up. What would other people do? Just carry on as my normal self? What do I do when he goes into these preoccupied moods?