I only stay for company

[fragglerock989]

married 14 years, 2 DC. Lots of historic issues in the past, I should have left then ..but i didnt. Mainly because I have very few friends and I would literally be alone just me and DC. No summer BBQ invites, no one with other children to go on holiday with/days out with. OH has a limited selection of couple friends/friends with children and we get invites from them for BBQs, holidays away where we join an even bigger group that they know and the children play together.
I long to leave DH but very selfishly i don't because he is my only companion, apart from 1 or 2 girlfriends.
How do i widen my circle ?

I wonder if you might find it easier to widen your circle after you have left your DH? It sounds as though you are using him as a crutch. If you were living alone you would have to become more independent and then more opportunities would arise for you to meet new people.
How old are your DC though? It might be difficult for you to get out if they are young.

Currently trying my best to widen my circle of girlfriends - I'm reaching out to old friends (who must be thinking wtf ! after not seeing these people since school which was 25 years ago) and anyone and everyone who I can. DC are aged between 10-14.
Really don't know how i can make more friends. I'm struggling, I want to have friends who will get to the stage where they invite us round for BBQs and vice versa ..but takes a lot of time to get to that point.
Would volunteering help me ?
I cannot understand how people make friends from the gym where you do workouts at each station on your own.
I feel totally stuck with DH.

I doubt very much that your H is much of a companion to you anyway even now.

What are your interests in life?. Can you connect online with people who like the same things as you do?. What about an online book club or something of that nature. Going forward enrolling on an adult education course or your local Womens Institute may be worth trying as it could get you to mix with women of all ages.

What do you want to teach your DC about relationships and what are they learning here?.

Better to be on your own with your DC than to be so badly accompanied. You can make a life for yourself post separation and should indeed do so.

I think with everything going on a lot of people are getting retrospective and reaching out. Why not think they will be happy to hear from you.

Join clubs, find new hobbies and do consider leaving a relationship that is keeping you in your comfort zone and holding you back.

You only have one life! Make the most of it.

@AttilaTheMeerkat - im sorry to say that (for me) my DH is merely here to care for the DH when I go out, bring money into the house (although i do bring in my own money too), someone to have BBQs etc with on summer eves when we're home alone and someone to go on holiday with. I don't really care for him anymore. I would prefer to go on holiday with my best mate than him. He could be anymore for all I care. I know that sounds horrible.
@Windmillwhirl - I'm trying my best to find clubs/hobbies/anything I can, but its just so hard.

*care for the DC when i go out