How are you keeping the romance alive in current climate??????

[Wheelyyyy]

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I love my DP but weve hit a rough patch...Id normally come up with something for us to do to try and lighten things and get us laughing again but Ive ran out of ideas and DP has mired himself up with work. Weve been together about 15months so most of the relationship has been during covid.

How are you all keeping the romance alive?? how are you having fun together?????
When your both feeling flat, what helps you both out of it??

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The best I can come up at the minute is going walking. Fortunately, we both enjoy it. We tend 5o cook dinner and watch movies each time we see each other. I'm getting desperate enough to suggest Scrabble or Monopoly 🙄.

Do you live together? Dh and I have date nights, order nice food and have a few drinks

We met during lockdown about 6 months ago so life has been long walks, cooking at home etc. No restaurants or galleries or movies which I would have been used to in the previous life!

Do you live together? and where? Could you plan walks with a picnic? Date nights? Zoom calls? TBH my partner and I just like chatting as we go about our daily lives so we are always armed with earphones. Its tough for sure.

Hi @Wheelyyyy. I've been with my BF since beginning of March - so our entire relationship has been through Covid. There's obviously been times we had to stay apart but now we are in a support bubble so thankfully can behave as 1 household.
I'm in a tier 3 area - so very little scope for going out for a 'proper' date. We both like walking so we get out of the house for walks when weather allows.
We do still have 'date night' meals in. Either i'll cook or he'll buy one of those "meal in for two" that the supermarkets do. I put candles out and stick some nice background music on. We have movies nights also and take turns choosing a film. We're both pretty easy going so luckily I don't feel too much pressure to make big gestures. I wanted to go to one of those places that put on lovely Christmas light displays as I thought that would be romantic - but round here they're all booked up but you might find one near you.

Assuming you don't have children, I can't imagine how it would be a whole lot different than normal times, really. Unless you are in Tier 3, but then you just need to make your own fun at home. Film nights, cook a nice meal together, game nights, long walks, long socially distanced walks with friends, if pubs/restaurants are open go for a nice meal out, drive in cinema (there is a pop up one near us over Christmas), weekend away in holiday cottage or nice COVID-safe hotel.

Hi thanks for your replys.
Because we've been having a rough time i.e not seeing eye to eye...communication has taken a hit. I dont meant to, but I notice im not forthcoming about my day, the things that are new, the good the bad or ugly...he doesnt seem as interested. He's down to talking lots about his day and life but certainly not as open as he was at the beginning. Like were running out of things to say.

So my thought process is to see if we can get us back to laughing and back to having a more carefree vibe. We like outdoor activities, snowboarding, climbing....understandably thats limited.

We are Tier 3 and are a bubble of two households. We dont have children together but between us there is 5. He has 3 under 13 and I have two that are 18 and 20. He has his children 50/50 and there is always someone home at mine...

We have done walking, making food, jigsaws, learned chess (he always wins lol), gone for drives. Fitness wise....he normally would play weekly sport. I know he's missing the training and banter and the structure. He's reluctant to book anything for next year (worries me) and his weekends he has his children part of it or all it. When he doesnt have them he's doing the usual catching up on washing, shopping, put the house back together.

Tonight we have a house alone. Ive suggested a challenge....see who can make the other laugh the most. I cant control what he does but i can control what i do.....and I hope to get the romance and laughter reinserted.

Ive just waffled on there lol

Tonight we have a house alone. Ive suggested a challenge....see who can make the other laugh the most.

You sound lovely OP but that's quite a high pressure challenge if things are a bit tense / flat? Maybe something like each choosing a funny film you like or listening to one of your favourite albums while you chat? Or take turns doing meals / courses - like a come dine with me but just the two of you? My ex used to always say 'let's have a fun night, just laughing no arguing' when we had rough patches and it felt a bit forced. Just food for thought. Hope you have a good evening

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