Remember me? 17 years and my husband walked out....

[WTFis2020]

Well I’m still in limbo.
He’s at his Mums, he ‘left me and not the kids’
Thinks he can just make plans to come and see the kids here, in the family home at the drop of a hat.
Zombie eyes, no emotion.
Throws the odd scrap at me ‘well I wanted to come hone but you wouldn’t have me back’
Can’t say what his plans are for the future, says I’m being awkward for wanting planned dates for him to see the kids.
He’s a cold, horrible stranger that has no concern for anyone but himself.

He's trying to pass off chlamydia medication as a secret santa present?
Flippin' 'eck. That's some brass neck that is.
Saw you other thread op, good to have an update and know that you're standing strong.

As you’d fall for all that bullshit eh and he seems to have an answer for everything eh.

Push ahead for the divorce and sort out maintenance too don’t let the fukker of the hook

Because your average GP surgery is more than happy to prescribe specific medication for a third party as a joke.

i. have. no. words!
Oh, except - gaslighter!

he must really think you were born yesterday, what an idiot.

I remember you op and commented on the original post a few times. I'm so pleased for you he's not back.

I remember yiu said in your other thread that if you held form and didn't take him back he'd be turning it around onto you saying you cause it to end. You know his games well!

The hotel and chlamydia meds are very suspicious. But I feel he is going to have an answer for everything no matter how far fetched.

I remember your thread well and often wondered about the OW. Are you on friendly terms with his Mother? How are the children?

In light of that information, it seems very unlikely that the huge loan was for the house in Spain. This may all seem so devastating and confusing now but in a few years time, you'll look back and laugh at his antics.

My DSis did a sneaky email hack too and found that her STBXH had been wining and dining half of London before 2nd lockdown. So much for saving up to rent his own place then. It's like they have no clue about the realities of life and all they care about is getting their leg over.

How do you know it was chlamydia medicine, OP? The first line treatment for confirmed chlamydia is doxycycline, which is commonly used for other infections as well.

@WTFis2020

Please tell us you got a std check after finding out about the meds for a std?

I remember you, OP. Good to see you.

I’m glad you’ve been able to resist this prince and his attempts to get himself back into a nice warm bed and easy life.

He’s vile, and you are a fucking queen for not falling for his bullshit.

I remember you too OP. Sorry to hear your STBEXH is still being an arse.
Onwards and upwards, you don’t need this energy drain dragging you down.
Proper arrangements need to be put in place for the children. He shouldn’t be messing you and them around like that. Could mediation be an option to try and sort this out?

Of course he left his kids too. When he walked out, he abandoned them. He put himself before their security and happiness. They are not his pawns to be presented when the king desires an audience. He needs to grow up, co-operate and plan in advance when he can see them.

I remember.

He told his own mother he didnt love you and is now re-writing history that you broke up the family.

I agree, push ahead with the divorce. You cant make him be decent. :-/

Just reading about the chlamydia medication and the hotel stay being nothing to do with him walking out on you!!

Feel a bit sorry for him 🤣. He thought his wife was a chump who he could play like a fiddle.

God he's a grim fucker

Ps, remember when he tries to rewrite history, when he left you, that day or the next day, he told his mother he didnt love you. He sat in her kitchen hours after leaving you and said that.

How can it be you that broke up the family.

In time you might mot care but right now, remind him that is what he told his mother after he left you

Loan was for Spanish property which is currently going through.

So he bought the property in the end ?!

Isn’t the Spanish property part of the marital assets?

Hi and I remember you

I've been through similar circumstances. You're doing just fine.

I used a lot of red lipstick after my exH did this. I now love my red lipstick and I hate Covid masks !

When I was low and in pain, I found I couldn't put my point across very well on MN to get the right advice. So just wanted to say, ping me a PM anytime you feel like you can't find the answers you need.

Wow didn't see your first thread OP (will read it now) but sounds awful

How did you know what the meds were for though? On his email. And you told him you'd read them??

Ugh, as someone just upthread said, he's a grim fucker all right.

Well rid.

And yes, not just what he said to his mum, but the fact that he told your DC straight off as well - he just didn't care who he hurt in his want to be out, did he. They will remember that, regardless of how he tries to spin everything else. His mother might be able to gloss over what he said to her (she is HIS mother, after all) and claim it was depression talking or some other such bollocks - but your DC won't.
And neither will you.

HOpefully you've been talking to friends and family and told them what's going on, so he doesn't have the chance to spin them all a line about how hard done by he is, and how mean you are?

How are you, OP?