I think my dh is controlling, I have thought so for a long time. I end up having a massive row about whatever it is he's doing to be controlling and things improve for a while but then he moved onto a new thing to control.
I don't really think there's much I can do and I can't move out atm but I just want to check if I'm losing my marbles or not,
Things like today I said I'd better cut down on my food for the next two weeks because it's Christmas and I'm putting on weight as I'm at home all the time now as I wfh.
Every single piece of food I got out today was questioned by him. Why are you eating that, I thought you were on a diet, you won't lose weight eating that will you, you're not helping yourself, eventually I lost it and said stop commenting on what I'm eating which he then denied he'd said anything.I'm at the top of my BMI and put on a lot of weight but I don't think these comments help me.
Recently the new thing is for him to get up declare he's doing a job that will 'help me' and tell me that I will be doing job x while he does it. So for example today I am not working I just want to sit down and after my dc finished watching a film my dh agreed to put them to bed as if it's a favour despite me doing it all week and then as soon as he got up from the sofa he's telling me i will be doing the washing up while he's putting them to bed. He does this type of things several times a day with various tasks.
Today I told him to stop telling me what I'm doing next to get on with what he's doing instead and leave me alone and he's just come back with all I had to say was no I won't be doing that instead of causing a row. I'm now wishing I had just said no but I don't believe it would have been that simple had I just said no. I have already asked him to stop mentioning what I will be doing whenever he's busy doing something else I'd like to decide for myself.
I've now come upstairs and he's walked past me without acknowledging me. I am so down now.
Does this sound controlling or just something silly? He has been controlling in the past with things like money and he's admitted this too but I've taken a bit more of a hold on that now by opening up a separate bank account and putting my salary in that. I just don't know if I'm living in a weird manner or if this is ok and I should just get on with whatever I'm told I'm doing whilst he's doing something else. Sorry for the long post.